SS MAYFLOAT
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I think I have figured out why my SIL cannot hold a job. He is on several phsyc drugs to keep him calm. He has been on some type of these drugs for the last 6 years. My daughter insists that he take these meds because he has a bad temper.
I can understand his temper and he has have every right to be mad. 32 years old and doesn't have anything. They have gone through bankruptcy, bills never get paid, and owes everyone money. Why? because neither of them want to work.
Daughter is a beautician, but she doesn't like to do hair anymore. SHe is going to school for nursing. But however I don't see her as a compassionate person for that job. She does miss a lot of school, but somehow passes her courses. She does not want to work.
With that said about my daughter, it is one of the reasons that I can understand why my SIL is in a zombie state of mind most of the time.
I came to the conclusion that the drugs are interferring with his ability to work. His thought process is broken and doesn't have the ability to understand simple tasks.
Here is an example. In the past I have always told him when jumping a vehicle that is is important that the assisting vehicle be turned off as not to destroy the charging system. Yesterday, my diesel needed a jump. We let the assisting vehicle charge for awhile. Then I said it is ready, "Shut off your engine". He unhooks the cables and looks at me dumbfounded. I had to re-inform him to hook the cables back up and to shut off his engine. He still looked dazed and confused. I explained to him for the umpteenth time about the process. This is not the only thing that has told me that his meds is destroying his thought process.
He helped me do some things to the boat yesterday as well. I had him put a hose on a barbed fitting. He struggled with it for 30 minuets and finally he said he couldn't get the hose onto the barbed fitting. Uh,,,,,,buddy, you gotta loosen the hose clamp first on the hose, slide it on, then tighten down. Don't tighten the hose clamp first and try to put it on.
It is the stupid simple things he cannot process. With me witnessing his work ability, I can understand why he cannot keep a job. It seems when he comes over to help me on the boat, I get more done without his help because I don't have to recheck the things that he did. Most of the time, I have to correct something or replace something he broke.
Sorry for making this long, I just don't know what can be done. For what income that they do have coming in, about 25% of it is for counseling and the meds. The ones that are really affected is my grandsons.
With his lack of gumption to work, he has become overweight and now has diabetes as well. When they lived in my house for 3 years, he dropped 80 pounds trying to keep up with me doing stuff around the property. Since then, he has put about 120 pounds back on.
Am I right on blaming it on the drugs? or should I just say that he does not want to work at all?
I can understand his temper and he has have every right to be mad. 32 years old and doesn't have anything. They have gone through bankruptcy, bills never get paid, and owes everyone money. Why? because neither of them want to work.
Daughter is a beautician, but she doesn't like to do hair anymore. SHe is going to school for nursing. But however I don't see her as a compassionate person for that job. She does miss a lot of school, but somehow passes her courses. She does not want to work.
With that said about my daughter, it is one of the reasons that I can understand why my SIL is in a zombie state of mind most of the time.
I came to the conclusion that the drugs are interferring with his ability to work. His thought process is broken and doesn't have the ability to understand simple tasks.
Here is an example. In the past I have always told him when jumping a vehicle that is is important that the assisting vehicle be turned off as not to destroy the charging system. Yesterday, my diesel needed a jump. We let the assisting vehicle charge for awhile. Then I said it is ready, "Shut off your engine". He unhooks the cables and looks at me dumbfounded. I had to re-inform him to hook the cables back up and to shut off his engine. He still looked dazed and confused. I explained to him for the umpteenth time about the process. This is not the only thing that has told me that his meds is destroying his thought process.
He helped me do some things to the boat yesterday as well. I had him put a hose on a barbed fitting. He struggled with it for 30 minuets and finally he said he couldn't get the hose onto the barbed fitting. Uh,,,,,,buddy, you gotta loosen the hose clamp first on the hose, slide it on, then tighten down. Don't tighten the hose clamp first and try to put it on.
It is the stupid simple things he cannot process. With me witnessing his work ability, I can understand why he cannot keep a job. It seems when he comes over to help me on the boat, I get more done without his help because I don't have to recheck the things that he did. Most of the time, I have to correct something or replace something he broke.
Sorry for making this long, I just don't know what can be done. For what income that they do have coming in, about 25% of it is for counseling and the meds. The ones that are really affected is my grandsons.
With his lack of gumption to work, he has become overweight and now has diabetes as well. When they lived in my house for 3 years, he dropped 80 pounds trying to keep up with me doing stuff around the property. Since then, he has put about 120 pounds back on.
Am I right on blaming it on the drugs? or should I just say that he does not want to work at all?
