Re: 4.3L carb Mercruiser upgrade ?
This is not an "upgrade" that has much industry support, so if you must do it, you will have to piece it together. There is no kit. As for shopping from a single retailer, I'm sure it is possible, but you will need to know what you want, including part numbers, before hand.
I know I already said this, but the best you can hope to net is about 30 or 40hp, IF you do everything mentioned above at a cost of $3000-4000USD. 30-40hp WILL NOT make a significant difference(maybe 3+/-mph and almost no change in acceleration) in a boat. This just doesn't sound like a great "investment".
I still think a V8 swap(or a different boat) would be a better solution. Just as an example you could look at the 5.7 vortec engine - Gold package from michiganmotorz. It includes manifolds, carb, and ignition for $5000USD. You could reuse your starter, alternator, PS pump, coupler etc. from the 4.3, they are the same for both engines. Sell your 4.3 to recover some of the cost. Buy a new upper unit with a 1.47:1 gear ratio from SEI and sell your old upper and probably break even or possibly even make money on this one.
Then go enjoy a 100hp boost for the same or less money, plus it will have increased resale value with the V8 in it. And sound WAY better.