Re: Impeller Replacement
You need to put the boats helm control in forward gear if you are removing the drive. That keeps the shift shaft in the drive and bellhousing facing straight forward so they will come apart.
If you are just removing the lower unit, it makes it easier to install, but not necessary.
The manual doesn't show how to put the lower on the upper while still on the boat, so they wouldn't have a reason to say fwd or neutral or reverse. All will work.