Tales from teenage drivers training

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To make it worse, like my wife, she will not listen to a word of advice from me. I the get the famous teenage, "yea whatever".
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These two are related - pun, and point, intended.

I don't know your situation, especially your relationship with your child - that's very important with the course of actions you have available. Hopefully you know what will come off badly.

Based on my children/relationship with them, something like the following would work for a while (note that this is only temporary, like many things with children. If they are smart, they will learn techniques to counter, and you need to move on...) Hopefully by that time the points have been made:

You might try to carry around a little notebook. When you get the "yeah, whatever" type of thing - break out the notebook and write it down.

Then, next time she asks for something - ie: the car - break out the notebook. Say, something like: well, based on your past behavior on (read the list), the answer is NO.

Don't argue. If they want to talk to you, and you have the time, listen. The point is: it dosn't matter what they say, you are the one with the decision.

 

[FBPirate95]

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Don't argue. If they want to talk to you, and you have the time, listen. The point is: it dosn't matter what they say, you are the one with the decision.

AMEN!

 

[JaSla74]

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My mom started taking me out when I was 12. I was not allowed to drive an automatic, had to learn on a standard (very grateful for that). By the time I was old enough to drive I was a pretty competent driver. They did buy me my first ride, a 1979 Chevy stepside (totally stock, straight 6, no air, rusted rocker panels included). Although they paid for it, I had to pay for gas & insurance. My parents only put liability on the truck. I was told that if I wrecked it I was done. It was a great incentive to drive with caution.

 

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I was told that if I wrecked it I was done. It was a great incentive to drive with caution.

I am not so sure this sort of thing will work with my older daughter. She has the "act first, think later (if at all)" thing going. Granted, she's only 11 and there's still time: it was much worse when she was younger.

 

[JaSla74]

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I am not so sure this sort of thing will work with my older daughter. She has the "act first, think later (if at all)" thing going. Granted, she's only 11 and there's still time: it was much worse when she was younger.

Good point. We're all influenced differently. Finding what motivates her will be key.

 

[stanfd]

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The best car to get a teenage driver is a early 80s Mercedes 300 diesel. These cars are tanks and you'll never have to worry about them doing any racing.

 

[Shizzy]

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as already stated she is not ready to drive.

I was not allowed to drive my parents cars with one exception. My Pops would let me use his truck if it was to drive to the parts store to get parts to fix my broken car.

I had to get a job before I could purchase a car

I was responsible for finding and purchasing a car. I helped my grandparents move (40 years worth of stuff) and they gave me their 20 some year old Spare car that I treated like a new one.

Grades had to remain good or the car sat

additude had to be in check or the car would sit.

I sure thought my parents were a couple of _____'s, but in reality they were teaching me many many life lessons.