the other seal im referring to is the part that is outside the crankcase or block, it looks more like a cap on the lower end of the crankshaft, it's not the lower oil seal
Oh, that one! It's what keeps water out of the crankshaft and driveshaft, preventing them from rotting away. There should be enough "give" in the new seal to allow it to pass over the driveshaft seal area.
If there are any sharp or raised edges, be sure to put a wrap of electrical tape around the sharp edge & oil or grease it so that the new seal will slide over that area without damage.
Note that if the new seal won't pass over the end, you'd have to remove (likely destructively) the stainless driveshaft seal assy, then tap a new one on the end once you've installed the new seal. If you're unable to carefully drive the seal assy off the end of the crank, you could score it gently with a Dremel tool & grinder disc, until you're able to split the sleeve and remove it.
HTH.............ed