Well darn that you may be stuck with those fittings but happy to hear you made something work....Sounds like you got pretty lucky running into that guy.
Did you happen to talk to the place you bought them through while buying them to see if they'd be willing to work with you on taking them back for maybe a restocking fee of some sort...May be worth a try while possibly checking to see if they happen to have the first design part number in stock too to see if maybe the thread sizes are a bit different that maybe they'd go into the pump adaptor you have just to see if maybe ?.
^ 'The first quick connect part number fittings back in 2004 that went into the pump adaptor were 22-865412 and 22-865413 before superseding into the part numbers I listed/you bought.
Though I'm not positive of this following info as it's been awhile since reading the service advising bulletin from Merc and my details of any recollection of this are very faint but I'll go head and put it out there for you and others that may run into this same situation....After much thought I "think" somewhere along the changes made by Merc both in 2004 and I want to say 2006, (and your post above helps with these thoughts) I believe they ended up changing the thread sizes inside the pump adaptor possibly due to a parts manufacturer change and in order to make things work with the new style quick connect fittings they were recommending installing a new style pump "Adaptor"... Again I think. One (or any) of those 4 Merc dealers should be able to look that bulletin up to confirm the details though.
If my memory is the case then your $10.00 was a deal since the adaptors are over $300.00 new.

See item numbers 1 which list both old and new part numbers of the adaptors,
http://www.mercruiserparts.com/bam/s...30858/1017/130
Though it's listed for outboards and goes into Merc # 22-808727 CONNECTOR, (.50-20 UNF To .4375-24 Inverted Flare) that also fits a Merc stern drive style pump, Merc fitting part number 22-818200 kind of looks like it may work too of what the guy was able to make up for you?
Just for references purposes here's all of the "listed" connector thread sizes of years past,
22-808727 CONNECTOR, (.50-20 UNF To .4375-24 Inverted Flare)
22-805118 FITTING, (.4375 UNS x .4375 Inverted Flare)
22-865590 CONNECTOR, (.50 UNF To .25 Inverted Flare)
The screen shot below is from 2004 and is the only references that I can find about the changes made though I know there's more info out there from Merc somewhere,