It is the relatively small size of an outboard head that allows this. An 8 cylinder head is a different animal....

This method has always worked for me:
1) With a known-good straight edge, check across the head in various directions to see how "bad" it is. If there are more than ~ 0.010" gaps, it is probably a machine shop job, or get a new or replacement head.
2) Glass will work...edge-tape or spray adhesive will hold the abrasive sheet....or use lapping grit/valve grinding paste.
3) Hold the head and move it ON the lapping surface,which should be on a stable flat surface itself...not vice versa.
4) Use a gentle, circular motion....small radius is best....the weight of the head is all the pressure needed. Too much pressure is counter productive.
5) You will quickly see the emerging pattern of progress, with the high spots clearly showing until you get them leveled.
6) Start with 120X, when you have
just removed the last "valley", switch to 240X to refine the surface finish, and finish with a 400X.
IMO, point # 4) is the most critical.