Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

[ezbtr]

My 22 yr old girl in college, and works P/T and F/T when not in s chool ,400 mi south, they've been flying up for 12-13 yrs, but I get a call, with 12 days notice(as opposed to 3 weeks) and a one way is gonna run me $180.00 and she stays 3 days???? Um I think not. I can usually get round trip WITH ADVANCE NOTICE for $110.
This kid has never given me a problem ever, love her to tears, but I think I have to say NO, and maybe have HER schedule AFFORDABLE flights! No one is that "busy" that they cant answer a text or email with vacation dates in advance...
Hate to say no, but really think I have to put my foot down.....
Any suggestions???

 

[roscoe]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Amtrak, long beach to oakland, $67.

 

[ezbtr]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Amtrak, long beach to oakland, $67.

yeah she goes to uclb, but wants to get to her moms 6/22, my oldest 25 did that a few years back

 

[JoLin]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

This kid has never given me a problem ever, love her to tears, but I think I have to say NO, and maybe have HER schedule AFFORDABLE flights! No one is that "busy" that they cant answer a text or email with vacation dates in advance...
Hate to say no, but really think I have to put my foot down.....
Any suggestions???

I cut my kids a lot of slack because they're both decent and hard-working like your daughter. Their inability to look beyond today drives me nuts, too. I'd probably offer to split it with her. Love to see you, kid, but snap decisions usually have consequences. Nothing wrong with impetuous behavior once in awhile as long as you're willing to pay the cost.

 

[JB]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Train, bus or drive don't require advance notice and usually treat passengers as though they are customers, not cattle.

 

[BuzzStPoint]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Time to buy a bus ticket. 1/2 the cost.

 

[dingbat]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Before you say no, better find out if your usual $110 trip is even valid right now. Prices have sky rocketed since oil prices went up.

Long Beach to Oakland. Even going out a month, your still looking at $160 when all is said and done

 

[ezbtr]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Before you say no, better find out if your usual $110 trip is even valid right now. Prices have sky rocketed since oil prices went up.

Long Beach to Oakland. Even going out a month, your still looking at $160 when all is said and done

yeah thats what it was last time, with maybe 1.5 weeks notice...but her mom wants her to go out of OC

 

[ezbtr]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

I cut my kids a lot of slack because they're both decent and hard-working like your daughter. Their inability to look beyond today drives me nuts, too. I'd probably offer to split it with her. Love to see you, kid, but snap decisions usually have consequences. Nothing wrong with impetuous behavior once in awhile as long as you're willing to pay the cost.

yeah she a great kid, may have her split the difference

 

[emoney]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Hate to be the "party pooper" but I guess I'm horrible at spoiling mine. If my son called today and said, "I've got 3 days off but I'd need to fly out tomorrow", then I'd find a way to buy the ticket. She'll get more appreciative of scheduling and budgeting as she ages, but the time can never be regained. Then again, I'm the dad who's wife says I can't go "shopping" with Mother and Daughter anymore. Today we went to find my daughter a dining room table at a thrift store that she was paying for herself. What happened? Daddy bought her a new one. I'm way too easy. Just my worthless 2cents.

 

[emoney]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Other than the fact that you misplaced the post as it should've been in the, "Tell the biggest 'fish stories" thread, it's perfectly fine.

 

[ezbtr]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

got her a one way to OC for $150................................as long as she works with me, Im fine, yeah seems I was a bit better at planning at that age - hell, I already had one kid

 

[IES99]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

got her a one way to OC for $150................................as long as she works with me, Im fine, yeah seems I was a bit better at planning at that age - hell, I already had one kid

I know what you mean. It seems we became more responsible at a younger age. Still, my son asked for air ticket home from Dallas for July 4 and I gave him my credit card number. I just want to see him.

 

[Fed up]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

yeah seems I was a bit better at planning at that age - hell, I already had one kid

Was that planned? lol

 

[reddogg]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Split the cost with her and while she is in town have a father/daughter talk about good planing and a savings account to cover unexpected costs. It's hard cutting a kid off compleatly, esspecially if they're a good one, but there does come a time when they gotta stand on their own 2 feet and not expect mommy and daddy to be there to help out. We're not going to live forever.

red

 

[Summer Fun]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

I give my 2 poptart daughters **k a year to help them out.

I rather give it to them now and to see how much I'm helping them.

Plus its tax free to them per year.


Where I'm going you don't need any money.

 

[ezbtr]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Was that planned? lol

pretty much I guess - I married my daughters mom, before she was born, but her oldest half sister was 14 mos old, I adopted

 

[soggy_feet]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Dad called me thursday night to tell me he'd be coming up for a night on Tuesday... Yeah, only 5hrs away, and he's paying his own way, but thats still no notice...

 

[j_martin]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

Train, bus or drive don't require advance notice and usually treat passengers as though they are customers, not cattle.

Daughter just got hung up for over a week by AmTrak, Empire Builder. Luckily my boss happened to be within 400 miles of her in Montana, and I got her bussed to his location, and he delivered her to my door. Boss gained a driver and conversation. She just showed up here at 6 this morning. instead of Thursday morning if the train was on time, which never happens.

It was looking like the flood in Dakota, scheduling problems, yada, yada, yada Were going to cost her a well deserved vacation visit to ma's house.

 

[ezbtr]

Re: Grrrr grown kids, not planning!!! (for flights to visit) need to say NO!

I know what you mean. It seems we became more responsible at a younger age. Still, my son asked for air ticket home from Dallas for July 4 and I gave him my credit card number. I just want to see him.

yeah i know the feeling....my oldest in Japan