not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs later

ezbtr · Jul 3, 2010

really, just got email from ex, NOW she realizes how disrespectful her kids were(16 yr old good) but blew me away after getting home from date tonight(funnnnnn) bout how she sees and apologizes now, her nice bf has 2 kids, neither respectful...................um karma..........yet OUR son the most respectful kid in school, awards, coaches love him, etc.....he didnt get this way from me OR his mom bein quiet, his oldest half brother was lifted by shirt from grandmas table by mean old me years ago from dinner table and banished to upstairs for disrespect.......now shes dealin w her bf's kids....and sayin sorry for past disrespect........duhhhhhhhh......................we arent here to be their pals, we parent first and let them tell us how bright they are when they have kids.......
and the stuff i went through w 2 ex step sons, just to show them a good example of developing into a GOOD adult......
just needed to vent and be happy w the dad i am......

barman84 · Jul 5, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

I know exactly how you feel. My ex had a 14 year old son with a complete lack of respect for anything peroid. First time he pissed me off he was pissing off the front of my boat and on it for giggles. I good hard reverse was great for a swim in your own urine

. The last time resulted in him pushing my 12 year old daughter into a wall and smacking her. Trust me when I say I damn near killed him. I stopped calmed down and called the cops instead. I think he enjoyed his time in baby jail...

aspeck · Jul 5, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

Good for you, Heinz! Congrats on being a Dad instead of a friend. Those two things aren't mutually exclusive, but there are times when kids need a Dad more than a friend. That is when you have to do what is right and not what is popular.

jonesg · Jul 5, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

Thats why its honor thy father and thy mother, not honor thy children.

dave11 · Jul 6, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

One of the reasons I got divorced was my ex's daughter could do no wrong in her mother's eyes. Had a bastard at 14. She was as moral as an alley cat. Her mother couldn't believe it when she was shown video of her daughter at our credit union cashing a paycheck she had stolen from a co-worker. Just one of the many endearing traits of her daughter.

tashasdaddy · Jul 6, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

one of the reason i have been single sinc 1980. i can't smack them on the side of the head anymore. they call the kiddie police.

kenmyfam · Jul 6, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

You will find being a Dad first will make them your best friends later on.
Just my findings though after raising 5 of them.

jwp · Jul 6, 2010

Re: not sure how to post, but most awesome email from ex on kid disrespect 6 yrs late

Only had the one son, good boy through school. Lost him his second year of college. Continued to try to be his buddy then last year he decided he could throw his weight around. Decided he could throw it in to dad (literally - mind you he's 6' and I'm 5'5") Well lets just say experience got the best and worst of him. Only hit him once, he went back off balance - broke his leg. Took a few months of the law involved (good thing we live in a small town). I'm happy to say it must of been what was needed - he's our son again. Yes I felt like crap, never wanted to see him get hurt like that but apparantly that's what it took.

ezbtr · Jul 6, 2010