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I am about to lose a friend 
...I actually copied the bottom portion of the e-mail his wife sent me and posted it below. I know we are not all religious but I just think they need some support...his wife is being very brave and strong. Thanks in advance. Bob<br /><br />10/26/05<br />Because Steve is having a difficult time keeping food in his stomach, he has become increasingly weaker. Its become an effort for him to sit or stand for any length of time.<br />We had a hospital bed delivered on Saturday & he remarked how comfortable he was. Both of us have been sleeping in the living room since he came home from rehab after breaking his hip.<br />His regular home health nurse had taken a well-deserved vacation and, upon returning, was amazed to see how much worse Steve was than when she left. She spoke with me earlier this week and asked if I knew how close he was to leaving this earth? I told her no. She said in the state hes in, she doesnt see him lasting much more than 4 more weeks. Needless to say, it was like a knife going right through my heart. She hadnt told Steve. I was glad she didnt. When I told Steve, we cried, we talked, we cried some more
Our boys are devastated and, Im sure, just as scared to lose him as I am.<br />I have the most wonderful boss in the world. I work in an extremely wonderful office. Ive been fortunate to be able to bring work home to do, as I dont feel comfortable leaving Steve alone now and home health said they wont provide more care (i.e. 24 hour attendance) until the final week which sucks big time!<br />Which brings me to the last part of my email for now, as I cant read what Im typing through my tears
.<br />I feel I need to give you all a heads up. Its time to say goodbye however you see fit in person, by telephone or in prayer. I would just like to say that Steve enjoys so much having people stop in (for a short visit, as he gets very tired and his medicine makes him very sleepy.) (Hes having a morphine drip put in today to try to keep his pain level on an even plain. But, if you wont be able to see it, nor would you know its there if I hadnt told you.)<br />I know that some of you, our dear friends and family, may not be comfortable saying good-bye and may not know what to say. However, please, PLEASE dont let that deter you. Steves a good conversationalist as most of you know and will probably make you comfortable. I know its difficult to think of what to say, but Ill give you a hint you can always talk in the present, reminisce about the past, be upbeat even humorous just please, if you can, drop in. In the end, it will mean so much to him. More than likely, Ill be here if that puts you more at ease.<br />And, who knows, he may surprise us all and make it the 4-6 months
. or longer! Id welcome him being with us for as long as possible, but Ive also told him its okay if he feels hes had enough, hes hurting too much. Ive tried to reassure him I, we will be okay, yet sad.<br />So, dear family and friends, Ill close. Please understand if I dont get another email out right off. Ive really got my hands full right now. My intentions are good, though.<br />Love to all,<br />Patti<br /><br />UPDATE- Thank you everyone for your prayers and thoughts. Sadly Steve passed away this morning. I have lost a good friend he is in a better place now.<br />Bob
...I actually copied the bottom portion of the e-mail his wife sent me and posted it below. I know we are not all religious but I just think they need some support...his wife is being very brave and strong. Thanks in advance. Bob<br /><br />10/26/05<br />Because Steve is having a difficult time keeping food in his stomach, he has become increasingly weaker. Its become an effort for him to sit or stand for any length of time.<br />We had a hospital bed delivered on Saturday & he remarked how comfortable he was. Both of us have been sleeping in the living room since he came home from rehab after breaking his hip.<br />His regular home health nurse had taken a well-deserved vacation and, upon returning, was amazed to see how much worse Steve was than when she left. She spoke with me earlier this week and asked if I knew how close he was to leaving this earth? I told her no. She said in the state hes in, she doesnt see him lasting much more than 4 more weeks. Needless to say, it was like a knife going right through my heart. She hadnt told Steve. I was glad she didnt. When I told Steve, we cried, we talked, we cried some more
Our boys are devastated and, Im sure, just as scared to lose him as I am.<br />I have the most wonderful boss in the world. I work in an extremely wonderful office. Ive been fortunate to be able to bring work home to do, as I dont feel comfortable leaving Steve alone now and home health said they wont provide more care (i.e. 24 hour attendance) until the final week which sucks big time!<br />Which brings me to the last part of my email for now, as I cant read what Im typing through my tears
.<br />I feel I need to give you all a heads up. Its time to say goodbye however you see fit in person, by telephone or in prayer. I would just like to say that Steve enjoys so much having people stop in (for a short visit, as he gets very tired and his medicine makes him very sleepy.) (Hes having a morphine drip put in today to try to keep his pain level on an even plain. But, if you wont be able to see it, nor would you know its there if I hadnt told you.)<br />I know that some of you, our dear friends and family, may not be comfortable saying good-bye and may not know what to say. However, please, PLEASE dont let that deter you. Steves a good conversationalist as most of you know and will probably make you comfortable. I know its difficult to think of what to say, but Ill give you a hint you can always talk in the present, reminisce about the past, be upbeat even humorous just please, if you can, drop in. In the end, it will mean so much to him. More than likely, Ill be here if that puts you more at ease.<br />And, who knows, he may surprise us all and make it the 4-6 months
. or longer! Id welcome him being with us for as long as possible, but Ive also told him its okay if he feels hes had enough, hes hurting too much. Ive tried to reassure him I, we will be okay, yet sad.<br />So, dear family and friends, Ill close. Please understand if I dont get another email out right off. Ive really got my hands full right now. My intentions are good, though.<br />Love to all,<br />Patti<br /><br />UPDATE- Thank you everyone for your prayers and thoughts. Sadly Steve passed away this morning. I have lost a good friend he is in a better place now.<br />Bob
