Re: sequence for connecting shore power to boat
Well, somebody will tell me I'm crazy but I don't think it makes any damn difference. I leave my shore breaker 'on' at all times and disconnect \ reconnect the other end to the boat without concern for anything. Just plug it in.
Once in a great while the main breaker on the boat's switch panel will pop, or the one on shore will pop, but they simply reset and are fine.
Lots of opinion on battery switches, too... mine is to leave it on Battery 1 at ALL TIMES (on my boat, this is actually two batteries both new deep cycle group 27s). My third battery is on Battery 2 and is a Group 24 starting batt. The charger will juice them up regardless of the switch position (as will the alternators).
The idea there is that you can anchor all day, play music, run the fridge, etc. and kill the two big batteries but so what? I can then start engine 2 on Battery 2 and then use the parallel switch to start engine 1 on Battery 2.
Same concept if you have a single engine with two batteries - always run with the swich set to Battery 1 (which should also have all the direct-connects on it like radio, bilge, etc.). Leave Battery 2 for when you really need it.