teenage daughters

[scotty c]

Oh,they can break your heart...<br />Love mine till the end of time, but lately<br />the attitude has got so big and bad,<br />that neither Mom OR Dad can take it.<br />So, long story short.. after warning her<br />that she can't tell Mom to "F-off" one <br />more time, she did...<br />and i told her to leave, which she also did.<br />Boy do i feel bad, but what else can you do ?<br /><br />hope it all turns around someday soon !

 

[artburr]

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I can understand how you feel. Been there - about forty years ago. It took her about ten years to come around but it is all patched up now.

 

[PW2]

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Sometimes mothers and daughters, for whatever reason, simply cannot get along.<br /><br />My youngest could not live with her mother, and moved in with me to do her high school years.<br /><br />She is a great kid, and while I had a few problems with her, nothing serious, she worked hard, graduated from university, has a great job, and still can't get along with her mother.<br /><br />I sometimes think, but can't prove it, that her mother is mad at me somehow for not having similar problems with her as if somehow I cheated.<br /><br />Her mother is missing out on the development of one special kid, however, and it's too bad.

 

[Boomyal]

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A tough one to take Scotty. I hope it smooths out sooner than later. Maybe some day this nation will turn off MTV and kids can return to their innocence.

 

[rolmops]

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I brought up 2 of them(or maybe they brought me down).Not only are they lovely,they are also ravishing!! Needless to say they are the cause of many sleepless nights of wondering how on earth I will get these two straightened out.They both left for school leaving a trail of broken hearts,but they more or less settled down and in their absence I found my love for them has grown.<br />One of them will be back for the summer in a week.In an effort of damage control I told my wife that we are close to bankruptcy.I just hope she believes this little white lie.Wish me strength!!

 

[JB]

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I think I had an extraordinary wife. Our three girls were all teens at the same time. The oldest is 29 months older than the youngest.<br /><br />They had typical teen problems learning about and dealing with life. Only remember one confrontation with their Mom. Mom found a bag of grass in the fridge where it had fallen out of a wrist cast the youngest was wearing and was telling her what for when I walked into the kitchen. Daughter got angry and defensive and shoved her mom, who fell over a bar stool. Dad then decked her. Only time I remember ever hitting one of my children.<br /><br />Instant contrition, apology and plea for forgiveness.<br /><br />That was about 30 years ago. I guess times may have changed. Today if I did that I would probably go to the slammer.

 

[PW2]

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I personally think some parents expect their kids to be little carbon copies of themselves, instead of individuals in their own right.<br /><br />All kids rebel to some degree, and all kids make mistakes. It is how they learn. My daughter and I used to joke, when she would get herself into one jam or another, that it was yet another "learning opportunity" that was presenting itself.<br /><br />We managed to keep the mistakes in the non life altering variety, and took it all with as good humor as possible, trying to not take anything too serious, while still understanding that one is responsible for the consequences of their actions.<br /><br />I have to admit that I was truly happy to get her thru the teenage years and into young adulthood. She has always known everything there was to know, but the difference now is she actually does know something, and I can relax a bit.

 

[kenimpzoom]

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I am certain I will tell these same woes in about 12 years. The 3 yr old is as hard headed as mom and dad combined. Wonder where she got it from????<br /><br />Ken

 

[bootle]

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I cannot really add much to this subject since never having any kids of my own, but during my younger years if i had used that sort of language within earshot of either of my parents i would've certainly been picking up my teeth off of the floor.<br />There is no excuse for a child be it a teenager to be that disrespectful to their parents.

 

[fireman57]

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Just hope none of mine (from 28 to 13) turn out to be a carbon copy of me. My one and only daughter is one of the joys in my life. We talk about everything and I mean everything all the time. She still comes to me when something is bothering her and it's usually about her older brother and the things that he is doing. Hope she continues to do that during her life.

 

[POINTER94]

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Sorry Scotty, I have no pearls of wisdom, but if you think you are doing the right thing, stay the course. My brother was the same way, but my dad would have none of it. Filty mouths and negative lifestyles will find their way to the bottom, but as your daughter is young, she has time to find her way. <br /><br />Keep the doors open, and the rules in tact.

 

[jinx]

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Scotty, to look for a silver lining.<br /><br />Be glad that your daughter(s) have some spirit. Being young it will not always manifest itsself in the best ways.<br /><br />I know a young woman (19) who does not drive, has no telephone freedom, cannot go out with anyone who is not approved by dear old dad, and cannot leave the house without an escort.<br /><br />What enforcement mechanism the old man uses Lord only knows, but I suspect he will answer to the Lord for it someday.<br /><br />Nice girl, but so thoroughly broken, I doubt she will ever be herself.<br /><br />Jinx

 

[bootle]

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"Nice girl, but so thoroughly broken, I doubt she will ever be herself."<br /><br />That is the makings of a vicious cycle, she probably will end up with someone who may add physical abuse to her already mentally abused state of mind, the sad part is she will accept it as normal until one day she will snap and something terrible will result.

 

[rottenray6402]

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This really tough to deal with Scotty, my son was a pleasure to have around and never caused any problems for either his mother or me. We were divorced when he was about 7 so could have easily turned out the other way. I did get a taste of what you encountered though about 4 years ago I ended up moving in with a woman who had a 16 year old daughter who I thought had turets sydrom at first. For some reason her and I got along which in turn helped things with her Mom so now even though I'm not with the Mom anymore the story has a happy ending. I think kids need the stable influence more than anything. Good luck and listen to that little voice inside of you it will tell you what to do.