Is there anywhere I can still download the Merc manual?
i can't help ya there, sorry. but if yer gonna have yer boat for a while, perhaps just buy the book. i've had two boats, one the needed manual #1 and the next boat needed manual #2. i got both off ebay. i never shop ebay, but for them two manuals it worked well. had me a couple jet skis too. both of them i got the oem manuals for too. imho, the factory manual is the best tool in the tool box.
can't help ya on the base either. i've never had to service mine, yet. when i need to, i will consult my oem manual and use whatever sealant is recommended.
Lastly, my lower drive shaft (coming out of the water pump) has the o-ring groove. Do you guys agree to NOT replace the o-ring and just leave it off
yep, leave it off. i haven't had mine on for years w/o ramification. my proof for that is that if ya were to buy a new replacement drive shaft from mercruiser, it would come w/o the groove and you'd be forced into not using the o ring cause there'd be no where to install it. while to oem s/m does say use the o ring. there are times when updates come into play. imho, this is one of them times.