JustMrWill
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Re: Caught my woman talking online.cheater
Situation: She is emailing men and meeting them. Content of emails? Assuming that there is nothing concrete in the emails (ie.."last night you were terrific...by the way, did you find my panties?") She has a yahoo profile that states she is currently looking? (This is not an old account that she forgot to delete.)
Here is some possibilities...
1. She likes to flirt and is not getting it from you. That new relationship spark is dead and she is looking to fill that gap. She likes the "game" and the excitement of the emails/dates but "would never let it go too far". She feels that she doesn't need to tell you cause "it means nothing". So, can this be fixed? Maybe. Obviously, you are hurt by her actions. Would you be willing to live with the knowledge that some of her needs are being met elsewhere? Will she be able to stop? Does she want to? How can you meet these needs?
2. She is hiding the fact that she is dating because she feels guilty and knows that she is doing something wrong. She was hoping to get into a new relationship then dump you (that way she won't have to be alone). Basically, she wants out but doesn't have the guts to let go without a safety net. At first I was going to post, "why does she want out?" but after some consideration, forget it. If she is at this stage, then there are serious problems. Not necessarily, that there are problems..but the biggest problem...why did she feel that she couldn't work them out with you? It should never have gotten this far...and it probably will only get worse. Cut your losses.
3. You are overreacting. You are blinded by rage. You have read into the situation and blown it all out of porportion. When you went looking for a problem...you made sure that you found one in a few innocent emails to old school buddies. Subconciously, you were looking for a way out...and now you have found it. When she talks to you and explains it all...you will be like "ah...hmmm...well, since you put it that way..." and you will feel like a jerk.
Like I said...these are just my opinions...based alot on personal experiences. The problem with my 3 situtations, they are not 100% exclusive unto themselves. It can be #1 - 80%, #2 - 20% and she will make you feel like its #3 - 100%.
Re-reading this...I sound bitter...WOW.
I guess, you need to find out what she is doing and why. Once you get that...you need to decide if it is "fixable" or not. Everybody is different...so I can't tell you what you can or cannot handle. Good luck.
-JMW
Situation: She is emailing men and meeting them. Content of emails? Assuming that there is nothing concrete in the emails (ie.."last night you were terrific...by the way, did you find my panties?") She has a yahoo profile that states she is currently looking? (This is not an old account that she forgot to delete.)
Here is some possibilities...
1. She likes to flirt and is not getting it from you. That new relationship spark is dead and she is looking to fill that gap. She likes the "game" and the excitement of the emails/dates but "would never let it go too far". She feels that she doesn't need to tell you cause "it means nothing". So, can this be fixed? Maybe. Obviously, you are hurt by her actions. Would you be willing to live with the knowledge that some of her needs are being met elsewhere? Will she be able to stop? Does she want to? How can you meet these needs?
2. She is hiding the fact that she is dating because she feels guilty and knows that she is doing something wrong. She was hoping to get into a new relationship then dump you (that way she won't have to be alone). Basically, she wants out but doesn't have the guts to let go without a safety net. At first I was going to post, "why does she want out?" but after some consideration, forget it. If she is at this stage, then there are serious problems. Not necessarily, that there are problems..but the biggest problem...why did she feel that she couldn't work them out with you? It should never have gotten this far...and it probably will only get worse. Cut your losses.
3. You are overreacting. You are blinded by rage. You have read into the situation and blown it all out of porportion. When you went looking for a problem...you made sure that you found one in a few innocent emails to old school buddies. Subconciously, you were looking for a way out...and now you have found it. When she talks to you and explains it all...you will be like "ah...hmmm...well, since you put it that way..." and you will feel like a jerk.
Like I said...these are just my opinions...based alot on personal experiences. The problem with my 3 situtations, they are not 100% exclusive unto themselves. It can be #1 - 80%, #2 - 20% and she will make you feel like its #3 - 100%.
Re-reading this...I sound bitter...WOW.
I guess, you need to find out what she is doing and why. Once you get that...you need to decide if it is "fixable" or not. Everybody is different...so I can't tell you what you can or cannot handle. Good luck.
-JMW
