Re: Do you believe in Social anxiety, anybody have it?
Vlad the Impeller "I'm not so sure that here would be the the place that one would get the absolute necessary advice that you may possibly need to repair what is most likely a mental healy issue, such matters ought to be handled by the appropriate professional.
My 2 cents."
I'm not saying I have social anxiety, but I am saying it would explain allot if I do have social anxiety. I am not asking for anybody on here to cure me, I know that isn't possible. If anything I am just asking if anybody believes that social anxiety is real or is the term being blown out of proportion to explain shyness, or has anybody ever dealt with it if there is such thing.
But in all I really don't think it is an emberassing subject to talk about on here, I am know to be very anti social especially lately in person.
Maybe I'm mental
, but this post gnaws at me.
Reading the definition of social anxiety, I would think that nearly EVERYONE, has some or all of the symptoms, on at least a small level.
Job interview jitters, conversing with people you don't know well (or at all), speaking/performing in front of crowds in front of large groups.
Sound's like the stuff "normal" people struggle with, even if it just a little bit, on a daily basis. I know I do.
Hard to say if a Pro needs to involved in your case, but personally, I'd try some-self books to see if anything helps.
I suggested (in an earlier post) reading the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. The title sound's like a lame salesman guide, but it is really an insight into the difficulties of human interaction. The thing is, the stuff in it is so simple, you end up slapping your own forehead, for not figuring it out on your own. It was originally printed in 1936, but think about it, has basic human interaction really changed since?
I had my 1940 copy for over 20 years and I have to still take it out and re-read from time to time. In fact I just dug it out of my toolbox and am amazed to find this high tech gem-
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you"
True? You bet and I'll give an example:
I was at the feed mill (in the mill) and there were 3 other customers waiting. I never met any of them before and two of them barely new each other. We were all just standing around in awkward silence, which drives me insane. Not knowing these people I had to work a little.
I had overheard one guy tell the feed guy that he was working on an engine and he had mentioned to another customer (a woman), that his son wanted to take the car. Time for action - "so what kind of engine are you rebuilding?" he was a little startled but answered. I ask a few more related questions and left it, then on to the kid wanting the car.
The woman got interested, because she had kids that age. The third guy mentioned birds in his pond, so I started asking about them.
15 minutes later we were chatting like friends.
I'm certainly no Dale Carnegie, I just get sick of awkward silence, really, really quick. I struggle to break the ice nearly every time, at parties ect. but I am always glad I forced myself to do (if necessary).
It is basic human nature for people to be more interested in themselves. What better subject to start a conversation with?
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Good luck
