Can't Convince the Wife

[skargo]

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It's absolutely an investment in fun, and quality of life. My wife was resistant, but now gets mad if weather or other factors prevent us from going out. She also wants to get a cabin cruiser or houseboat in addition to our Nova, so we can park it in a slip and have a "weekend" waterfront condo.

She's a keeper!

 

[belairbrian]

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it's like that commercial.
Used Boat$2500
Gas for Boat $40
Live Worms $3

Kids face when they catch a fish Priceless.

As for other toys I can make a numbers case that an RV is a good investment.

Compare a weeks hotel bill in Destin to the cost of the RV. Then add in the Lysol to spray down the hotel room, meals out, and you still get something back when you sell the RV.

 

[TilliamWe]

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... a boat would be a good investment...

Stop right there. That statement CAN NEVER be made about a boat. If that's what you are trying to sell, you will fail. Boats are not investments. They are a huge expense. You can not justify the purchase of a boat in dollars and cents. They are a losing proposition in that regards.
Now, if you try, you might convince her that a boat is a "worthwhile expense". I know I believe that!

 

[Phantom_II]

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Stop right there. That statement CAN NEVER be made about a boat. If that's what you are trying to sell, you will fail. Boats are not investments. They are a huge expense. You can not justify the purchase of a boat in dollars and cents. They are a losing proposition in that regards.
Now, if you try, you might convince her that a boat is a "worthwhile expense". I know I believe that!

That would depend on what you mean by "investment".

As a financial investment, I agree. A boat is generally a complete disaster, but as a "family" investment, I can think of few better.

A boat has a way of bringing a family together for some true "quality time" away from the TV, the internet, cell phones, and the increasing tendency that families have of ignoring each other in the seclusion of their own little world.

Boating draws people out of their shells and forces them to have a good time together in spite of themselves.

(My opinion, not to be confused with an authoritative conclusion.)

 

[scutly]

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"every weekend can be a mini vacation". that was my line after we got back from key west last may. it was our first real vacation in ten years and when we got home we both felt a little post vacation blues. summer was around the corner with nothing much planned to do. it didn't take that much to get her "on board" with the idea and now we both agree we should have gotten a boat years ago. we got a slip in a cool little marina 10 minutes from the house that we didnt even know existed. lots of times we just hang by the boat/on the boat docked. we are makin new friends and havin a blast. its like a whole new life for us and it did wonders for our relationship. in your case maybe you have to wait till after your child is born. i would think that a prenant woman is going through lots of maternal emotions. protection for danger/nesting and being frugal with the dollar for starters.

 

[Jeep Man]

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It?s better to beg for forgiveness then to ask for permission! Just go get what you want!

Oh no no no no no no no no. Not when wife is involved. The price you pay will be waaaaaay to high.

 

[scoutabout]

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...the bottom line is, if anyone here knew how to convince a woman of anything she was dead set against, we'd be writing best selling book, not posting on a boat forum. ...

ROFL! I love it! You sir, are a wise man.

 

[Jeep Man]

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There are a few other things to consider. My wife was not into speed boats, and didn't care to have one. When we got the cottage, a boat was moved up on the wish list. My speed days are behind me for the most part and now grandkids are part of the picture. A pontoon boat turned out to be a good fit.
My point is, there are many types of boats, so determine what YOU would like and then what wife and family would enjoy. Is it speed for skiing, tubing etc.? Is it small for fishing? Is it a pontoon for family and friends and relatively lowspeed and comfort? Rent a few or go out with friends. You will probably find a type that appeals to all concerned.

 

[Capt'n Chris]

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The 3 worst investments are: A boat, a racehorse and a swimming pool.

 

[TilliamWe]

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That would depend on what you mean by "investment".

As a financial investment, I agree. A boat is generally a complete disaster, but as a "family" investment, I can think of few better.

A boat has a way of bringing a family together for some true "quality time" away from the TV, the internet, cell phones, and the increasing tendency that families have of ignoring each other in the seclusion of their own little world.

Boating draws people out of their shells and forces them to have a good time together in spite of themselves.

(My opinion, not to be confused with an authoritative conclusion.)

I don't agree that it's "quality time" for most families. Mine as a child? For sure! But not for the majority of families I see in Illinois. Either the parents are too drunk to care about their kids, too busy socializing with their adult friends, too busy arguing, or they aren't even boating at all, they are just sitting at the dock. Which is not quality time, from what I have seen.
And in the original poster's case, if his wife is this dead set, it will NOT be a good family investment. She will make it a living hell. (I know, my wife tried every time we go out. To the point, I started leaving her at home, and just going out with my 2-3 year old son, who enjoys it.)

 

[MrPunem]

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HAHAHAHA thanks for all the input. Using the word investment and boat I didn't mean financially....I should of clarified....I meant an investment in more family time....thant one of the lines I have used with her...but I get the typical response: "there are plenty of other things we can do"

 

[BTMCB]

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It?s better to beg for forgiveness then to ask for permission! Just go get what you want!

GREAT line! One question........does your "current" wife like the boat?

Agree with all that a boat is not a financial investment but it is an investment in family fun time. My wife needed liitle convincing when I started talking about a boat but of course I didn't start bringing up until after we got the horse she was asking for. It is a matter of negotation!

 

[dingbat]

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My wife needed liitle convincing when I started talking about a boat but of course I didn't start bringing up until after we got the horse she was asking for. It is a matter of negotation!

I can certainly relate.

My wife is into fox hunting and my youngest daughter is into dressage. Have a ?spare? in the field as well for my oldest daughter's pleasure riding to support as well.

I got the Grady White I always wanted and still have enough left over for gas and all the tackle that always seems to find it's way into the boat.

We don?t talk horse expenses and we don?t talk boat expenses.

 

[Mr. Florida]

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My wife has two horses and a donkey. Maybe I need to buy two more boats to even up the score!

She wants a bigger boat too, though. I may keep the skiff and get a pontoon or deck boat.

 

[Les Robb]

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OK, for all you macho guy's that are gonna get one anyway, more power to you. I was going to add a bunch of thoughts but probably wouldn't be worth the effort.

 

[Gregk]

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But the bottom line is, if anyone here knew how to convince a woman of anything she was dead set against, we'd be writing best selling book, not posting on a boat forum.

LOL - so true! Why is it we get married in the first place??????

 

[jdsgrog]

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Patience and persistence. Wear her down...that's the way they work on us.

Also go the kid route. Once the kid(s) are old enough, rent a boat for a few days, take the family out. She might be able to refuse you, but it's much harder to refuse the kids.

 

[ShaneCarroll]

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You have an older child, right? By older, I mean old enough to talk legibly. What I did was drop not-so-subtle hints to the kid. Show them a boating brochure, pictures, etc. When all they can think about is going boating, and they ask you why you can't take them, just kindly say, "Ask your mother." She can't get mad at the kid for being persistent, just pull them aside, and say, "I'll give you a year's worth of candy, comic books, video games, etc, just keep asking mommy to get a boat until she says yes."

I am working on the kids now to convince the o'le lady we need a large cabin cruiser, not a house. That way we can move at will, and no property taxes!! The kids are holding up their end of the bargain, so I reward them with toys, candy, whatever they want. Now if only someone else would listen. .

 

[Knightgang]

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I bugged my wife for a boat when I got the itch really bad. Bugged her for weeks that I wanted a boat. I grew up boating and we had a couple of different boats through the years. My wife did not grow up boating, or really doing anything outdoors other than playing sports. Just ompletely different lifestyles of our parents.

While on a camping weekend, I paid for us a 1 1/2 hour boat ride in a Bayliner Bowrider. SHe and the kids loved it and the next weekend I had a boat.

Mine has been sitting for several years for a few different reasons. However, on Labor day weekend we took the camper to the lake for the weekend and my wife made the comment, "It sure would have been nice to have to boat up here and be able to get out and enjoy the lake..."

Guess I have her won over to it, now I have to fix it and get it ready to go out again... for everyones family time and bonding with my boys out fishing...

 

[brenton_karbowiak]

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How do I convince my wife a boat would be a good investment and would be fun for the whole family? We can financially afford an inexpensive good running boat <$2500, and figure we could get a few years out of it, but she is adimit and not allowing it...granted we are expecting # 2 but I think it would be an inexpensive activity we can do as a family and could be loads of fun. Only live 20 minutes from Beaver Lake, Ar so we have the opportunity to go out pretty often weather allowing. Any good convincing tactics?

i recently sorta had the same problem i was into racing motocross and had a harley but also i have a 4 year old who couldn't get on the bikes with me so i let the bikes go and got a boat and its the best thing ever so maybe sacrafice somthing for her a hobbie or somthing that she'll see you really want to put effort into a family hobie she might take that

brent
ohio