Cruise for the Misses

[waterone1@aol.com]

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As long as she takes the kids with her.<br />Whats the Problem??? <br />You will have the house to yourself and your buds..for 10 days. <br /><br />That was to make you chuckle in a stressfull time. <br /><br />I'm sure others here will be more helpfull.

 

[PW2]

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I think it is dangerous business to try to control someone else's life.<br /><br />I'm probably the last person you'd want to give marital advice, but if you trust her, why not let her go?

 

[SpinnerBait_Nut]

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I will say this, a relationship of any kind is built on trust.<br />If a person can not trust the other one, then the relationship is doomed because if she gave in to your demands there will be resentment toward you for not trusting her.<br /><br />It will always be in her mind and it will cause problems down the road.<br /><br />After 34 years of marriage, I can honestly say that there has not been one time where I did not trust my wife and as far as I know, visa/versa.<br /><br />If she has not giving you a reason not to trust her, then you need to let her go. If she truly cares, you don't have to worry and she will care for you that much more knowing the trust is there.<br /><br />Now that is just my .02 worth. You do what you want and good luck.

 

[Chief101]

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What's the big deal? If you are going to control her and hold her back you are headed for disaster, and sooner than you think. Chief

 

[mikeandronda]

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Well by posting this you are basicly saying there are trust issues......I quote the wise and asteemed SBN <br /><br />"If a person can not trust the other one, then the relationship is doomed because if she gave in to your demands there will be resentment toward you for not trusting her."<br /><br />But I say it goes both ways, If she goes and you dont trust her, you will forever be thinking of what happened on that cruise........Thing is the cruise isnt the problem, your trust issues are. Has she ever caused you to distrust her????? Whats her friend like???? Does she trust you?<br /><br />Edit: On the flip side, At first I wasnt sure if your married and if you are I think its a bit different. I would do what I have to to make my wife comfortable about any situation and I expect her to do the same for me.......Girlfreind would be a different thing.

 

[Haut Medoc]

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It all comes down to trust.....<br />You really don't have a choice here......<br />If you are that insecure in the relationship, it is doomed anyway.....<br />This will not go well either way....<br />If you try to force your will on her, you will be resented......<br />She's all ready told you she is going.....<br />I suggest that you hear her.....<br />It doesn't bode well that you are resentful though ....<br />That will lead to problems down the line most likely.....<br />But trying to control her won't work, either......<br />I do agree that I wouldn't like it, but I trust my woman.......<br />There are times that she has to go out of town on business......<br />Sometimes it's good to have a break, anyway....<br />Here's what I would do:<br />I would go on my own vacation, at the same time!<br />Even if it was a rough it camping road trip.....<br />What is good for the goose, is good for the gander ! <br />+ she will have to find someone to watch her kids while you are both gone.......<br />They are not your responsibility!.....JK

 

[mikeandronda]

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Wow a post that I agree with Haut. ( Well of course its non-political).......nice change......I think your right on Haut he needs to go on his own vaction and she needs to find someone to watch her kids.<br /><br />Edit: Heres an option maybe......What if you ask her to dont go with her friend and plan a cruise with you? I know its a bit pricey but being someone you just returned from a cruise it will be something you guys would never forget. If that doesnt interest her I would have negative thoughts myself.

 

[Reel Poor]

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You my already be having problems in you relationship with her. If you are to controlling this may be her opportunity to get away from a situation for a few days. Maybe she needs a break. I would suggest you take a long hard look at things from a different perspective. I'd say tell her you been thinking about it and are seeing things in a different light, tell her to go and have a good time. Then I would take "her" kids and do a little vacation thing with them. Give them something to remember. When they talk to "mom" they will have all kind of positive things to say about the time that you dedicated to them. Then I would plan "with" her to take some time off and spend it together. Your relationship might need a new spark.<br /><br />It is all about trust. Without trust people begin to feel chained down.

 

[rosco_59]

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Do not try to control her at all or she just might not come back. You have to trust people my friend, if she has not done anything to make you think she would then what is the big deal. Letting her go without any problems is telling her that she is special and you trust her. Trust is what a good relationship is based on. Hope you make the correct decision for the both of you.

 

[Kenneth Brown]

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I'm like Mike, Haut is right this time around.

 

[heycods]

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Have a good vacation waterone, hope you catch fish, enjoy

 

[txswinner]

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I would not under any circumstances keep the children unless they can clean fish and retrieve. Kidding, if you feel as strongly as you say, I would first tell her to take the kids and if she went without them she values being single over being married to you.<br /><br />Trust is important but you do not hang out in a candy store if you are on a diet!!

 

[waterone1@aol.com]

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[tuahcodem]

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a women's place is to obey<br />she should respect your wishes and refrain from this shameful behavior

 

[bigskydrift]

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Allah, return to the dark ages!

 

[heycods]

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Is single friend a trouble maker. have you and single friend had problems in the past???????

 

[LadyFish]

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Maybe you should plan a nice trip for yourself and some buddies during this time.

 

[mikeandronda]

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Well it says alot to me that she is gonna go no matter what. It also says alot that she didnt trust you to go on trip with your friend. I dont think its pushin it a "Bit" as you said I think its pushin it "alot".

 

[fireman57]

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The part that I don't get is that she felt strong enough about you not going on your trip but she doesn't seem to care about your thoughts on her trip. Have things always been "her" way in this relationship? I know that if my wife (of over 20 years) really didn't want me to do something then i wouldn't do it. The reverse is also true because we love and respect each other. I don't remember a time where either one of us had to draw a line in the sand. I guess the point is that she seems to care about her andher feelings more than you or even her children and that should be a pretty big red flag.