Enter/Exit common courtesy

[Mark42]

What the heck is going on lately with people entering and exiting buildings, rooms, elevators, etc?

I find it increasingly common for people to not use common sense, let alone common courtesy. Take this example: I'm in an elevator with 2 other people. When the elevator stops, 2 of us want to get out, but there is a woman outside who just starts barging in before I get half way through the door. She just shoves her way in, pushing me against the door jam and also blocks the other guy from leaving. He asks her to excuse him so he can get out. Unbelievable.

Another example: I am leaving the barber shop, hand on door knob and pulling the door open, some young guy just pushes the door open into my face and rushes in.

Don't people realize it is easier to let people out of a room or elevator before they try to enter? It is not only common sense to let people exiting exit before you enter, but it is Common Courtesy!

Is the world is such a rush that 5 or 10 SECONDS you have to wait for an elevator to empty going to impact your day that much? Don't people get any satisfaction out of showing courtesy?

I think a lot of this push-shove-get-the-hell-out-of-my-way attitude is caused by PARENTS who never taught their kids manners.

Think I'm off base on this or no?

 

[waterinthefuel]

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Not much I can say, I haven't experienced it like you have. I don't deal much with elevators, but when I do, I always let the people out before I get in. I kinda thought that was just the way you did it.

I've opened doors into people before, I never saw them standing there. I apologized and went on with life.

I deal with idiots and butt holes all night at work. I let it roll off my back. Just keep being nice to everybody and it just might rub off on others.

 

[57whitehouse]

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A lot of it is that parents teach kids that it's all about them. Giving them everything they want, trying to be thier best friend instead of a parent.

But sometimes, it's just the kid growing up thinking, "when I'm older, I'll do what I want, when I want and nobody is going to tell me what to do".

 

[Bob_VT]

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In my area elevators are few and far between.

However..... In the supermarkets...

We have 4 and in one 99% of the people are polite and in the other 3 you battle in the aisles

 

[JB]

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In your (NOT mine) modern world raising children with discipline and good manners is often considered child abuse. You will go to jail and the children will go to professional foster homes.

 

[Haut Medoc]

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Don't see that out here......
Seattleites are generally more courteous than the average......
We do encounter pushy east coaters now & then......
A glaring look & a loud, "Excuse Me!", puts 'em in their place every time......​

 

[kenimpzoom]

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Alot of people from foreign countries have trouble adapting to courtesy.

Travel to some contries and you will realize the concept of waiting in line and letting others off the elevator first is wierd to them.

In Columbia I found out that the one who shouts the loudest gets the donut at the coffies shop. China was similar. Thailand was a bit better but waiting in a striaght line wasnt too common, more of a group gathering and then no one knew who was supposed to be next.

Ken

 

[BF]

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people have to act like that in order to match their driving... don't you love it when someone uses the turning lane to pass a few cars lined up, and then lane change back into the queue because they are really going straight? But kudo's to them, the did get themselves ahead in life.

 

[Bigprairie1]

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Alot of people from foreign countries have trouble adapting to courtesy.

Travel to some contries and you will realize the concept of waiting in line and letting others off the elevator first is wierd to them.

In Columbia I found out that the one who shouts the loudest gets the donut at the coffies shop. China was similar. Thailand was a bit better but waiting in a striaght line wasnt too common, more of a group gathering and then no one knew who was supposed to be next.

Ken

This is pretty much true. A lot of foreign countries are extremely crowded compared to the U.S/Canada concept of public space and queing. They very competitive about getting in and out or on and off. It's the only way to keep moving there I think. Look at Japan...people are hired to push you onto the train to get and keep you moving. It isn't on the radar screen there tho' as offensive or bad manners just part of getting by.
Europe, although better, still is very much like that. The Brits are pretty good tho' with the polite bit.

 

[JRJ]

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Its not just young people. Here at least, you really have to watch out for older folks riding those electric shopping carts. They are dangerous.

 

[PW2]

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Don't see that out here......
Seattleites are generally more courteous than the average......
We do encounter pushy east coaters now & then......
A glaring look & a loud, "Excuse Me!", puts 'em in their place every time......​

I've never seen that as a problem, except for kids in chairlift lines in Sun Valley, Idaho. Invariably doctor's kids...

However, there are regional quirks.

I recall years ago I was visiting San Francisco, trying to grab a ride on a cable car, but there never seemed to be room. Some random girl looked at me and asked if I was visiting. She just said follow me...and she took a couple steps and a flying leap at this cable car where there was clearly no room...and to my amazement, a spot seemed to open for both of us miraculously, and just in the nick of time...

And while living in Port Angeles, Wa, you could count on the fact that if you were walking and any car stopped for you in a marked crosswalk, it invariably had California plates.

 

[LadyFish]

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People are rude, its a me first society. I hate that people are so discourteous. It always makes me feel good to lend a hand, or hold a door.

I know one thing, if a fat lady drives her grocery cart up on the back of my ankles just one more time - I will go coastal on her.

Women with grocery carts are horribly rude. I made it a point one day to NOT get out of the way of any oncoming rude women with carts. I came home with a bruised finger on one hand and a slice on the other hand.

I'm lookin for some payback!

 

[oddjob]

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Ok I have to log in again here,Sorry.

A pleasantly large man bumped me three times in the BEHIND in line at circuit city one day. each time I turned around and he looked at me and said nothin. The second time I turned and said excuse ME...the third time I turned around grabbed his cart and shooved it into his gut and said oops! my mistake....you in a hurry? go ahead and go next! Why, he was stunned at my behavior and declined.

Just like in traffic, sometimes you have to become aggressive in order to keep from being stepped on or ran over. This part of Florida has lost most of its beauty. politeness is viewed as a weakness for most down here. ok I'll log off now..........

 

[JB]

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Rules for gentlemanly and courteous behavior were imprinted on my butt whenever I exhibited a need for learning, which got less often as I grew. I can still read them (without a mirror).

 

[OldMercsRule]

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Don't see that out here......
Seattleites are generally more courteous than the average......
We do encounter pushy east coaters now & then......
A glaring look & a loud, "Excuse Me!", puts 'em in their place every time......​

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I agree! People are purdy friendly here in Gods' Country in most ways. N' the women are better lookin' then the one's who hang in Freemont with hair growin' where in should not: too! JR

 

[puddle jumper]

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Just wondering how many of you guys still hold the door open for some one who is close to using it after you go through it.

 

[WaterWitch2]

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I hold the door open for others. I even open the door for my wife sometimes.

 

[puddle jumper]

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I hold the door open for others. I even open the door for my wife sometimes.

Thats funny

 

[WaterWitch2]

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Thats funny

After 13 years of marriage you get to slack off a little.

 

[puddle jumper]

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Yup
You should see the look on my wife's face when the door shuts in front of her.
Then my ears get red as she scolds me.