Father's sick

triumphrick

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Got back from the hospital after seeing my Dad this afternoon. He's 86 and pretty sick right now. They have put in a pacemaker and he is struggling to get out of bed to do therapy.
I read mainexile fishing story and it bought back a lot of childhood memories. Many of them were good, however not all of them were. The good seemed to always involve fishing and camping. We were a military family and moved a lot, but spent most of our childhood and then our high school years in the Tampa area. I can remember spending the night out on the causeway between Tampa and Clearwater making a lean-to out of the concrete pavilions. Fishing untill the wee hours. Getting up again at sunrise, catching hermit crabs, breaking the shells and catching the biggest sheepheads I can ever remember.
By that afternoon we were cooking our fish on a charcoal grill, eating corn cooked in the fire and baked potatoes that were cooked on hot rocks.
Or we would go to the end of the catwalk on the Gandy bridge, climb up on the bridge itself and catch so many trout I couldn't keep track. Or cutting a big ladyfish up and tossing out that old Penn 68 with the Dacron line and bringing my first big shark up on the rocks after walking him off the bridge.
Always, I was there with my Dad.
We would leave fishing and he had to go to the bar to stop in and have some beer and a smoked mullet.
He spent a lot of time in those bars.
He was still in a bar last month singin a little karaeoke when he had the seizure and passed out.
Some of those times at the bar were fun, others were coming to drive him home. But he always seemed to remember our fishing trips. We went out often for many a year. And later it was my turn to take the point and show him how to net bait or troll for grouper or how to join in on the fleet in the Boca Grande pass and not **** off the charters with their thousand dollar guide trips.
I guess as I write this I remember more of the good than the bad......
That's a good thing.
 

pduquette

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My prayers go out to you, your dad ,and your family . I take care of my 82 y.o. mom , lost my dad in '99. Can be tough , but you'll find sharing those precious times should not be passed by. You'll both feel better for it. Pete.
 

Kenneth Brown

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We'll be praying for ya'll Rick. Its good that you remember the good times, and the bad times too.
 

tashasdaddy

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my prayers and best wishes to you and your family. alcohol, played a big part in the military, back then. when i was a navy corpsman, i worked in the first navy alcohol/drug program. it was then that the navy finally realized, it was a problem. the guys were sent there, usually due to a captain mast, and were not at all, interested.
 

aspeck

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Rick, thoughts and prayers go out to you, your dad, and your family during this time. I lost my dad in 99 and it is amazing how as time goes on you forget more and more of the "bad" times and more and more of the good times. My dad has almost attained Sainthood now! :D ;)

In the grand scheme of things, the bad doesn't matter so much ... but keep remembering those wonderful fishing and boating memories ... they are wonderful and always worth sharing with others.
 

woosterken

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prayors comming to you and your Dad
I lost my Dad back in 01,and all I can remember are the good times

woosterken
 

mainexile

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Rick, sorry to hear about your dad. The memories you have of the good times are nature's way of softening the blow that dad is not immortal. Fortunately, the older we get, the sharper our memories become for things that occurred many years ago (I can't remember what happened last year, but 40 years ago...no problem). Prayers and best wishes to you and your dad.
Steve
 

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Rick, I can identify with you and your story. Grew up in a military family; father had seizure later in life; he had pacemaker implant in his early 80's. Perhaps a difference is Dad had macular degeneration and lost most of his vision by the age of 80.

He died last year at age 92. I spent a lot of time with him in those later years. Everyone says I was a wonderful son, but I wonder even today if I did enough. Looking back I'd have to say I regret not thinking about and getting our first boat sooner than I did (bought it this year). It would have been great to have somehow figured out how to get him out for a boat ride. He wouldn't have been able to see anything, but I think he would have reveled in the sounds and the motions of the boat on the waves.

Sometimes I launch alone, but I can always feel Dad by my side.

All the very best to you, your father and your family. Ken
 

Geo2008

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I guess as I write this I remember more of the good than the bad......
That's a good thing.

This is a good strategy for life, no need to keep trashy memories just throw them back, cherish the good ones.

No one can take your good memories away.

Sorry about your dad's health bud..
 

CATransplant

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Thanks for telling your story. My Dad's 84 this year and, while he's still active, it's impossible to tell for how long. My wife and I moved to Minnesota to look after her Dad and Mom, but my folks still have their other two offspring living nearby, so it's OK.

My wife's Dad died two years ago, at 86. Both him and my Dad are WWII vets, one a supply sergeant and the other a B-17 pilot. Both are heros in my eyes, even though our childhoods weren't always wonderful.

We all have to cherish the time we can spend with our aging parents. Far too soon, they'll be gone.

A year after we moved to Minnesota, my Mom and Dad drove out here from California to see us in our new home. They came in May, right after fishing season started. I really, really wanted to take my Dad fishing here, as he had done so many times for me in the past. So, I bought an old boat in February, and towed it out of a field full of snow. It wasn't the boat I wanted, but it would have to do. I fixed the old Johnson 35hp that was on the back of it, with the help of the folks here on iboats.com, cleaned it up as best I could, and it got it's first test launch a week before my parents arrived, the day after the last ice was off the local lakes. The second launch was for that fishing day with my Dad.

Everything worked fine, amazingly enough. We didn't catch a darned thing, but my Dad said, at the end of the day, "Son, you know I can't remember the last time you and I were in a boat together. This has been a great day."

I sold that boat shortly after that trip, since it had a weak transom, soft floors, and wasn't what I wanted in the first place, but it did its job. It got me and my Dad out for one more fishing trip together.
 

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Memories keep us close through time...............sending prayers you fathers way.
 
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