Girl issues, part 2

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For all who don't remember:<br /> http://www.iboats.com/cgi-bin/ubb/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=20;t=011894 <br /><br />Just as I'm over the whole thing, and no longer talking about it, I heard some news today that's really bothering me.<br /><br />I broke up with this girl over a mouth ago, she dumped me because she wasn't over the last relationship, which was with a 21y/o, she's 16. Well, just a few weeks after that she's "seeing" somebody new. That pissed me off at first, but then I kinda got over it, this kid was the same age as her and went to the same school. He was no prize, but from what I've heard he's not a bad kid.<br /><br />Then, this morning I hear that she bumps the new kid, her reason this time was "he's been an *** to me" and I guess he kinda was. So, she dumps him, and now she's in the process of hooking back up with the original kid, mr.21y/o that she was seeing before me. She's been talking on the phone to him like every night all this week, he says he loves her and everything again.<br /><br />I'm REALLY pissed off about hearing this <br /> a lot of you guys told me this would happen, you where right. Its not even like I 'm really mad because she's not with me, its the fact that she's with this scum bag again. I really like this girl and care about her, and just don't think she has any business being with a guy that old.<br /><br />Her parents won't allow it, but she's able to sneak around them, he's slept over his house in the past, had sex with him for her first and only time, and I think he may have given, or tried to get her to drink. None of her friends want her with him, and most have never met him.<br /><br />I really don't think he gives a crap about her, he just knows she's always going to come back to him no matter what and its easy for him when he wants it. <br /><br />I'm really at the point where I want to do something drastic about this.<br />Any advice?

 

[alden135]

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Advice? sure, stay out of it. I believe it was the same advice as months ago. <br /><br />Good Luck.

 

[Fly Rod]

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Forget about it, before it gets you into trouble!!! There are other starfish in the sea!!!<br />Let it go before you get into the police notes under domestic disputes!!!! If you are right about her having sex once with the older guy then I would say it's been more then once!!!!<br /><br />You need to join the "4F club",!!!!

 

[JRJ]

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Find'em

 

[Haut Medoc]

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Not worth wasting your time & energy......Stay out of it ....It is not your business.....She will do what she wants to do.....I don't think this girl is as nice or as smart as you think see is..... MOVE ON! IMHO.....JK

 

[rodbolt]

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I am with alden<br /> its not worth it. let her know you will help if neede but other than that stay away from it, sometimes its hard to stand back and watch a friend crash and burn but sometimes its all you can do.<br /> you CANNOT force a change. wont happen and never has. you can show them how a succesful person in life can be and make them wish to be like you. <br /> I fell in love at 18,got married at 19,divorced at 41 so I dont know a whole lot other than what I watched some of my friends and associates do. some did some really dumb things that have followed them ever since. one guy was a member of the same car club, we were all in our late teens and early twenties, his girl friend was "cheating" on him, he got drunk took a bat beat the mans door in and whupped his arse, he spent 18 months in prison for a felony assult with a deadly weapon charge.<br /> his "girlfriend" was in court on the plaintiffs side.<br /> my aquintance cannot vote, could not join the military and has had problems getting decent jobs. all due to something stupid.<br /><br /> he was married with 3 kids and a decent employment last I saw him but that one night of youthful stupidity cost him very dearly. its a night he regretted a long time.<br /> think about it before you act. ask yourself will it matter in 10 years, if it wont walk away.

 

[deeep water]

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this younge lady is very confused ,,she wants everyons attention but no ones advice ,,by the time she works it out many good younge men will be soooo screwed up ,, sit tight ,, way off to the side ,, very camo,, watch how the other bucks fight and loose and learn wats about to happen,,, a good rack on the wall takes time and skill,,, dont rush the shot or youll be blood trailing something for a very long time kinda criptic ???? so is life DONT BE IN SUCH A RUSH ,,you sharpen a knife one side at a time ,,

 

[RetNav]

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Ryan, it seems that everyone is giving you the same advice, stay away from it. However I won't say that. You see I have read the other post and this one and you are still questioning and asking for advice. You have received a boat load of advice and are still asking so I believe that it is safe to assume that you still haven't received the answer you want and will keep asking until you do. It appears that you and this young lady are a lot alike, neither of you will take good advice. So I say to you, imitate an adult and do what you want and be prepared to suffer the consequences.

 

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I pretty much have taken everyone advice, I haven't talked to her in almost four weeks, and I haven't talked to anyone about her unless they brought it up, with i will admit that I spend a lot of time thinking about it all.<br /><br />The only reason I'm wanted to do something now is I heard about her getting involved with this 21y/o again. I was told by a friend of hers that while the two of them where last going out they would fight and break up all the time, then get back together. It would happen a lot.<br /><br />When I said I wanted to do something about it, I didn't mean I was gonna find the kid and beat him up or anything, I would never do that. It doesn't make sence, even if I where to have someone slap him around, it would only make me look like an *** and make her feel bad for him.<br /><br />I was thinking something more along the lines for getting together with a few of her close friends, and all of us talking to her about it, because like I said, everyone who cares about her, including her parents dont want to see her involved with this kid.

 

[rodbolt]

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Ryan<br /> your showing some thought in this.<br /> be careful notifying parents, some folks are not reasonable. my advice is while notifying parents may help and it would certainly make you feel better, do it anonomoysly. cant spell .<br /> if the info is tracked back to you you will become a target.<br /> its not right but it happens.

 

[JB]

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Oh, God. <br /><br />Even at my age I remember how terribly painful my first experiences with girls were.<br /><br />You've gotten very good advice from people who care about you Ryan. They have been there, done that, got the T shirt and still carry scars.<br /><br />Trust me: Trust them.

 

[deeep water]

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ryan you need some long term time in a realy cold deer stand ,, think long very long ,, and use the big head this time lol,,, the fish you throw back today will be a better catch next year and youll know if its is a breading fish or not

 

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Notifying parents. . . . I thought about that but decided againts it. I know if she was my daughter and I found out what was really going on I'd flip, and most likely wail the #$%^ out of this guy. Not only that, but her parents would flip out on her, giving her a real hard time. Her parents really liked me, and I guess would like that I came to them, but to her and her friends, it would look l like I did it because I was pissed at her. I can't really do it anonomoysly either because I'm one of only three or four close friends who knows the whole story, she'll know it came from me.<br /><br />I guess for now the plan is this, go to school tomorow and talk to her best friend, jackie about it. Jackie is going out with a really good friend of mine, and I know her pretty well. She was the one who set me up with her to begin with. If jackie agrees with me that this kid is bad news and we have to do something about it, I'll see what she wants to do and do it. If she acts like I should be minding my own busness, I'm just gonna have to let it go for now, and I guess wait for them to break up, which WILL happen, and try again.<br /><br />The whole thing just really sucks, and its not like shes the only girl in the world, or my first girlfriend. Shes just the first girl I really wanted to be serious with, and cared a lot about. I've been out with four other girls, just messing around since she dumped me and its just not the same as it use to me, since meeting her I don't have fun with other girls anymore, and spend WAY to much time thinking about her, it really sucks. Before I met perette, girls where like objects to me, I really didn't take them very serious, something about her caused me to change.

 

[Haut Medoc]

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You are not over it/her....Find a new one who deserves your time & effort....His age has no bearing.....She is making conscious decisions for herself.....In less than two years no one will have any say ..... At all! Again, I say move on with your life.....BTW, tainted goods will never taste good.....Do not allow yourself to be recycled, when he tires of her again......JK

 

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In less than two years no one will have any say ..... At all!

Actually, she turns 17 sometime this week, so thats only a year away.

 

[RustyC]

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Ryan I feel for you. From your earlier postings, and this one I can tell you are still not over her. It is hard because you feel you did everything right, but she still ran back to the guy that was treating her bad? You have a good head on your shoulders and you don't need to play second to anyone. Maybe this girl will wake up and see she is making a mistake maybe she won't. Try to move on and if it is meant to be it will be, but don't stop your life thinking if she breaks up with Mr. 21 all will be great. That didn't happen the first time. Trust me you will find another girl that will spin your head just like she did.

 

[deeep water]

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its so hard to explain about time to the young ,, yes i was younge once i dont remember when but i was ,cause i got stuff in my closet that dont fit no more ,,you have time ,,, lots of time ,,, days of it weeks of it ,,,put yourself in the front of a boat ,out front of you is ,very clear water you can see the fish you cast and cast and cast but the fish wont turn to the bate ,,you drift past and try another place later maybe a week or a year you come back ,,same place same fish ,,,does it take the bait ?? do you stop fishing ??? slow down use the time you have to learn and grow

 

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Oh my God, what a day!<br /><br />heres the update,<br />My buddy brandan calls me and tells me that perette got her licence, and I'm like "well, ok" and he says, "did you always encorage her to go out and get it" I'm like "yea" and he suggested I send her a text message or something congradulating her, so I did. Just now, like three mins after sending it, my phone lights up with a reply, she says "hehe, thanks I saw u today"<br /><br />talk about a total turn around, as of right now, she's single, hasn't offically "hooked up" with mr.21 yet. So, I replyed asking her where she saw me, and saying that I was in NH all day. So, we'll see what happens, but I'm feeling pretty good being on some kind of talking level with her again. I'm still playing the whole thing cool though, we'll see what happens

 

[Haut Medoc]

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Ryan, I feel for ya ....I do....Remember what I said about "tainted goods"...The smell will never be as sweet as it once was with her ....Even if you "got her back"...Move on....It would always stick in the back of your mind.......And you will never trust her again....Though you think you will....Trust a not so old guy on this one....I have to ask....Have you confided any of any of this to your Dad? If not, you should,(if possible).....I know it is hard....Mentally & physically Do some justice for yourself & let her go....JK

 

[Boomyal]

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All I can say at this point is AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARG! Ryan, this is not the way it's supposed to happen. Step back, take a deep breath and see this charade for what it is. I truely think if you were watching, from a distance, a good friend go thru this you'd just chuckle and say "get a life".<br /><br />Somewhere out there is just the right 'hottie' for you and believe me when I say that you will not have to go thru all this BS to try to make it happen.<br /><br />Forget about her. She has shown where her head is and it is nowhere where you want to be. Move on to the next friend WHEN the opportunity presents itself.