Going to be a hard weekend...

fire831

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Sorry for your loss. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
 

tashasdaddy

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Gary, i was out of town, sorry to hear of your loss, both Mom and Dad are gone. it was hard then. but much better now. been 17 years, on occasion, i stiil want to call and ask a question.
 

Gary H NC

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Gary, i was out of town, sorry to hear of your loss, both Mom and Dad are gone. it was hard then. but much better now. been 17 years, on occasion, i stiil want to call and ask a question.

Thanks Buddy,
Now that both of mine are gone it gives me a whole different perspective just how short of a time we all have here on earth.
The clock ticks faster than we realize sometimes.It really makes you think how we need to enjoy life while we can.
 

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Gary, When my wife died. I now have this hanging on my wall. It seem to help at times. Take care. :)
[SIZE=+4]Footprints In The Sand[/SIZE]
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[SIZE=+1]One night a man had a dream. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]He dreamed he was walking along the beach with the Lord. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Scenes from his life flashed across the sky[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]and he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]one belonging to him and the other to the Lord. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=+1]When the last scene of his life had flashed before him,[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]he recalled that at the lowest and saddest times of his life[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]there was only one set of footprints. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Dismayed, he asked, "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you,[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]you'd walk with me all the way.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]I don't understand why, when I needed you most,[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]you would leave me." [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=+1]The Lord replied, "My precious child.[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]I love you and I would never leave you. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]During your times of trial and suffering[/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]when you saw only one set of footprints... [/SIZE]



[SIZE=+1][SIZE=+2]That was when I carried you."[/SIZE] [/SIZE]
 

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You're in our thoughts here in MD.:(
 

tlovelandka

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So Sorry to hear that Gary, you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers...

-TLove
 

Bigprairie1

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Geez Gary...losing your Mom, thats rough. Sorry to hear about that.
Hopefully she lived a very good life and left a positive mark with her family and friends. Thats all you can really hope for.
Hang in there, keep swinging and know that she is in a better place.
Regards,
BP
 

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Gary,Sorry to read about your Mom you have our prayers,stay strong
 

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Sorry to hear the news. My mother suffered several years before passing. It was still very hard and still is after these past 12 years. It never gets easier when thinking about them. Prayers are sent my friend.........SS
 

Gary H NC

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Thanks guys...It really helps knowing prayers are being said for me and the family.
The funeral is this evening.It's going to be the hardest part i know.
I feel in my heart she is in a better place and is smiling down on us.

Thank you my friends........
 

ezmobee

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on occasion, i still want to call and ask a question.

Ain't that the truth.

Sorry for your loss Gary, my condolences to you and your family. I lost my mother 5 years ago. She was only 55 I was 28. In some ways it gets easier and in other ways it doesn't. If yours was like mine.....you'll only now realize how much she really "ran" things now that she's gone.
 

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Been pretty much out of the loop the last week and a half ... just saw this thread.

Gary, you have my sympathy, and my prayers. It is tough, I know. Lost my MIL & FIL to long, slow, agonizing deaths and my father to a sudden heart attack. It doesn't matter how it happens, it hurts. But God is able to strengthen and sustain. Time heals wounds, but yesterday was the 10th anniversary of my Dad going to meet Jesus and I still miss him.

I have shared this story at many funerals ...

The young musicians hired to play for the Duke of Austria's summer festivities were ready to go home. Summer was over and they were tired, but the Duke kept them there.

The brilliant composer, Franz Joseph Haydn was sympathetic and offered to help them. So he composed a unique symphony that began with a full orchestra. As the symphony progressed, fewer instruments were included in the score. One by one, as their parts were finished, the musicians took their instruments and walked off the stage.

By the end of the composition, only two musicians remained - the first and second violinists playing a beautiful duet. The Duke got the point. Shortly afterward, he sent the grateful musicians home. To this day Haydn's Symphony #45 is known as the "Farewell Symphony."

Our heavenly Father, the great composer, has arranged a beautiful symphony for each of us. When our time is over, we can go home to rest. But the score continues. It is not time for the rest of us to give up, but to keep pressing on, remembering the beautiful music we made together, and expecting more beauty from the Father to come.

May God bless you, Gary. Keep making beautiful music, for you and for your family. It will help keep your mother and father's memories alive.
 

Gary H NC

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Thank you Art,
Great story....Its very similar to the sermon our pastor did.Our parents will always live on through us and the grand kids.

We had a great turn out of people i have not seen in years and the service was beautiful. I know my mother was watching and very proud.
The funeral home did such a great job.She looked so at peace.
I just had this feeling she was telling me everything is ok. I was the first one there and the last to leave.It was so hard to know when they closed the casket i would only see her again in spirit.Our Pastor told me to always remember its not good bye,its i will see you later.....
 

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Gary, I'm coming into this one late. I'm betting I know pretty close to how you feel. My Mom passed less that 18 months ago at 68 after a brief/unexpected illness. Hold your faith, hold your family, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. It takes a while for it to get easier and its ok to lose it sometimes.

I still catch myself on Sunday afternoons picking up the phone to call her as was my habit. I've been to the point of picking up the phone and starting to dial before I realize what I'm doing.
 

Gary H NC

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Gary, I'm coming into this one late. I'm betting I know pretty close to how you feel. My Mom passed less that 18 months ago at 68 after a brief/unexpected illness. Hold your faith, hold your family, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. It takes a while for it to get easier and its ok to lose it sometimes.

I still catch myself on Sunday afternoons picking up the phone to call her as was my habit. I've been to the point of picking up the phone and starting to dial before I realize what I'm doing.

Thanks Jason,
I still have that urge to call....i know exactly what you are saying.
The good thing is that this brought my brother and sister and i closer together.We have talked several times every day this week..
It makes me appreciate them more than ever.
 

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Thanks Jason,
I still have that urge to call....i know exactly what you are saying.
The good thing is that this brought my brother and sister and i closer together.We have talked several times every day this week..
It makes me appreciate them more than ever.

A silver lining to the dark cloud! Cool. Still praying for you and your family.
 

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Gary , My condolances to you and your family . Sorry I just picked this up.
As the major care provider for my mom , I worrie about the same thing with my 83 yo mom daily . More prayers sent to you all . peter
 

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Gary, Sorry that it took me so long to catch onto this thread. My prayers will be with you and your family in the days, weeks, months and years to come.

Glad to hear that you made it through the arrangments and services ok. You will make it through the difficult times to come too.

Hang in there buddy, we are all pulling for you!

Brandon
 

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So sorry to hear of your loss, Gary.
Will be keeping you and your family in my prayers,
Jason
 

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Sorry to hear of your loss Gary. My thoughts and condolences go out to you and your family at this difficult time. I lost my mother 2.5 years ago at age 68. There's not a day that I do not think of her in some smal way. I suspect your mother will remain with you in her special way as well.

Although it is hard to the be soldier in the family, keep the strength.
 
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