One of the worst day of my life

gonefishie

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My girl, well ex-girl now, and I have just broke up. I have been through break up before but none like this one. I am sitting here watching her, her step dad and her brothers going through my house and moving her things out. I don't know what to do so I figured I jump on here and spill my guts. Man, the feeling is indescribable.
 

pduquette

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Sorry to hear . It realy s__x to have things end. Been there myself ,only I was packin...The best thing to do Let her go peacefuly now , and try to work things out later. Take care of yourself ,we're praying for your best outcome and welfare. peter
 

JB

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Initiation into the ranks of dumpees is always very painful, GF. Most of us have been there and survived. The younger you are the more it hurts.

Nothing makes it feel better but time.

If this is really the worst day of your life you are a really lucky guy.
 

zach103

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

DUDE i am right there with you .. well mine was way more messed up broke up october.. she got a new bf. me and her hook up on new years right after she said she loved him more. than she dumped him. told me well most likely get back. led me on till a week ago when she said im out of her life.. i know where your at man i know how yah feel.. do what i did.. go buy something for the truck or the boat.. something nice. spoil yourself.. you deserve it man.. im here for yah too i know what your feelin
 

slasmith1

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

As long as she doesn't take the boat that means more free time to fish.
 

gonefishie

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Thanks Peter! After 3 years we have came to the end of the road. We couldn't settle our differences anymore so it was a mutual break up. I wasn't dumped so I'm not hurting much. We lived together for 2.5 years so it was hard to watch a part of me leaving for good.
 

beerfilter

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Thanks Peter! After 3 years we have came to the end of the road. We couldn't settle our differences anymore so it was a mutual break up. I wasn't dumped so I'm not hurting much. We lived together for 2.5 years so it was hard to watch a part of me leaving for good.

Dumper /dumpee / mutual agreement , never easy .
Still feels like an amputation without anesthesia , no matter what the terms of the parting were .

Time will heal it , and ONLY time . Booze helps for a minute , and hurts worse for a day or three .
 

PmDavis300

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

****ty, especially with her family helping her move, im still with my girl, but we have had some really rought times in the past month or two. i am trying like hell to avoid what you are going thru, i know how it is and its the worst. i hope you can find something to distract you.
 

SS MAYFLOAT

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

I was brought up to think of women as fish. If the one you catch doesn't meet your expectations, THROW HER BACK because there is more out there that will meet your expectations. It took me fishing many times. I thought I found a keeper 3 different times only to find those 3 liked to spawn with others. I didn't let that stop me from fishing. Thankfully I finally got a keeper that has been with me for 12 years this July. No fighting (at all,,never), receiving/giving is equal, and mainly we are getting too old to fish with new bait :D

Something is not right in a relationship if you fight in order to make things work to stay together.
 

chiefalen

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Your lucky you found out now. Could have been alot worse if it was down the road and you had kids.

Don't fight let her take her stuff and go. Once she's out don't let her back in.

Don't call her, write her, or send e-mails.

Get yourself a dog.

A dog won't fight with you.

A dog won't tell you to take a bath.

A dog is just as warm in bed.

A dog won't spend your money.

A dog will always be happy to see you.

A dog won't hang her underwear in the bathroom.

A dog won't have 500 shoes all over the house.

A dog won't tell you to put the seat down after you use the bathroom.

A dog doesn't keep 500 different kinds of makeup all over the bathroom.
 

chicknwing

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Man I understand how you feel. Been there too. Lots of good advice above, good that you let her get her things and go. As another suggested go and do something for yourself. Before I found my keeper, I had been with one fish for about 6 years when that one said she didn't want a boy fish anymore, she wanted a girl fish. I can't begin to tell you what that did to the king mackerel's sense of fishhood. Only time will heal your heart, but with that time comes a chance for you to reevaluate what qualities your fish had that you disliked and what qualities you had that made it difficult to keep the bait on the hook. Be honest with yourself and look for a fish who does not exhibit those qualities. Best of luck, we are all here for you if you need to talk/vent. I hope today is a great day for you!:D:D

TC
 

Vlad D Impeller

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Sorry to hear that things did not work out. Turn your gaze to the horizon fo a spell.
It is time for a singles cruise, it will take your mind off of this experience just long enough for you to enhance your perspective. ;)
 

gonefishie

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Thanks guys! I met her when her son was 6 months old, we started dating and she moved in with me about 4 months later. The boy is 3 and a half now and I helped raise him since he just started to crawl. His first spoken word was dada and I didn't have the heart to turn him down. So, I became his daddy and I am the only dad he has ever know. We have 2 dogs that I bought for her and grown attached to. They all left along with all the stuff, decorations, etc.. that make my house feel homely. After struggling to fall asleep last night, I woke up to a house without any sound and it looked and felt so empty that I barely recognized it. I gotta get outta this place!
 

jonesg

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

"One of the worst day of my life" .....?

then maybe you had a very unhealthy attachment.
 

pduquette

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

I feel for you gonfishie . I was married 6 years , then my ex decided that getting re-married was the wrong thing for her family (her kids only wanted mommy to be with their daddy -not me) . As much as it huet to walk away from everything that was good ; I knew it had to be . My life is ultimately better now ; and I'm sure yours will be too . Meet new friends , look up some old ones , see new people , and treat your self good too . As said before , set your sights higher than before you'll be surprized at what a good guy can catch !
 
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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Gonefishie, i read your post here a couple of days ago and couldnt help but feel for you over the last couple of days.

ive been where your at, we probably all have been at one time or another and yes it sucks big time, i mean who here, male or female at one time in there life hasnt thought of being single again? it tears at some of us to even think of being with out the one you love, but sometimes there are silver linings in those dark clouds and you hear the old cleshays <sp?> "time heals all wounds", "youll find another", with the thanks for all that stuff it still hurts.:rolleyes:

ive read alot of good things here from members- from alcholics to divorce etc... and i have to say, i keep coming back here because of the members, not only are they not afraid to give you there opinion, they also give advice(some good , some not so good) from experience. What im trying to say is, people are thinking about you and are hoping and praying you can get through this, these things happen, as much as they suck, they do all over the world, could be worse i guess, you could be starving in another war torn country or something, maybe its a blessing in disquise.

sometimes we forget that too feel joy, you must feel pain sometimes. thats one of those life things that really suck. time is the cure, be happy for the things you do have, maybe one day youll be even happier?

One day at a time brother, thats what will do it.

"find yourself, and you'll find true happiness." ;)

good luck,

FM
 

Pony

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

That sucks gonefishie. Though I haven't had that happen to me, I have been the guy who help someone move out while the ex was there. Its a horrible situation on both ends......hopefully the kid will be ok.
 

LadyFish

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Re: One of the worst day of my life

Good luck to you, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

I'm sure the house does feel empty without her son and the dogs. Thats got to be very hard on you right now. The emotional loss is one thing but the physical loss of not having your home buzzing with the sounds of a child's laughter and all the activity of him and the dogs has to be replaced with your sense of freedom, solace, and independence, at least for now.

Take care and find something else to occupy your time, get busy so you don't dwell on the negative.
 
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