seperation anxiety

[ShihanRocco]

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[ShihanRocco]

Re: seperation anxiety

Hope someone has had experience with this! Daughter just got married to great guy. Treats her like a queen. Problem is her10 yr. old daughter They have lived with us after her first divorce 78- years ago in her old room. Have become way too attached to grand daughter and having major problems adjusting to them moving to new house they bought 50 miles away. Daughter is an adult of course, having enough problems dealing with her moving away and understand this is the best thing for her and her daughter but grand daughter and I did everything together and can't accept not having her around all the time... Any thoughts ideas would be appreciated..

 

[rwise]

Re: seperation anxiety

My Grand daughter was living with me when I divorced 10 mounths ago, 8 months ago my daughter and her now husband got there own place. It has been hard for me and her (grand daughter) but it is the best for her (she will be 2 next month) I make it a point to go see her every wednesday, and they come over for family diner every Sunday. I baby sit as often as I can, and sometimes call her just to hear her voice. Ya I miss her as much as you miss yours! It gets better with time and both of you will adjust to it just as I am with mine. All you can do is be there as much as you can, and hug her often, at least she is old enuf to understand it!

 

[KaGee]

Re: seperation anxiety

You did what you could to help, and now it's time for a new chapter to unfold. Be thankful for the time you had. When she's older, she'll have those memories.

 

[aspeck]

Re: seperation anxiety

Just remember, the child belongs with parents, not grandparents. Grandparents are often too lenient for some reason. It is better for you to have seperation anxiety and back off a bit than for the grand daughter to wish she could stay with grandpappy.

From the other side, I have 2 step children. Grandparents on natural father's side were always stepping in (not natural father, mind you) and taking kids side. Made it tough for discipline. Both moved out when 17. Grandma took them to her house with grand promises. Daughter is now 23, son 21. Both are starting to come back around and grateful for our stand and resenting Grandma.

Make sure she knows you love her, help her mom and new dad out anyway you can, but do not get between them because you miss and love the grand daughter.

 

[JB]

Re: seperation anxiety

What KaGee said.