Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

[rivermouse]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

It all started about this one trip when she complained about all of her appointments she had to cancel so she could go fishing with me. First it was the place she volunteers 2 days a week. Then it was she had to change a doctors appointment. Then she had to call her hair dresser and today she reminded me that she was having to miss a church party she wanted to go to and has not even mentioned it to me.I told her that I haven't asked her to cancel anything.I told her that I wanted to go fishing exactly WHEN I got the desire and trying to plan it would only mean that the fish would be long gone before I got there. Paybacks are a MF and soon she will be trying to "plan" some holiday trips.......guess what?.. Im not going anywhere All of this BS and she doesn't even know how to bait a hook and doesn't want to learn. We are both retired and having a conflict about who does what when and where really gets me upset.Its the kind of thing that even if you win you still lose.........screw it.

 

[dingbat]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

I don't schedule or accompany her to the gynecologist, she doesn't schedule my fishing trips or my fishing partners.

My wife goes fishing with me once, every other year...maybe. And that is usually only when fishing is on fire and we're meat fishing. We're only allowed 1 fish per day, per person so it usually makes for a short trips. Otherwise she has no interest in getting beat up and sun burned on a boat 10-12 hours at a time.

She'll go surf fishing now or then well aware that half drunk, socially unacceptable fellow surf anglers will stop by from time to time to shoot the breeze and have a cold one or two, oggling the "woman" in the process.

 

[foodfisher]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

It happened to my parents. 22 yr lifer Navy vet retired to rule the roost that Mom had ruled those 22 yrs. Ended in divorce and the last important thing my Dad said to me before passing on was "I screwed up."

 

[LippCJ7]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

I think you should just suck it up and bring her along.



Don't forget the Chloroform......

 

[sphelps]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

I'm kinda lucky . I guess . My wife loves to fish . She is usually asking on Wednesday about going fishing on Saturday . We were gunna get a little bad weather coming through the other day . I was getting a bit wishy washy about going . She said come on it's just a little rain ! Heck she even takes her own fish off the hook . Well all but the scary looking ones . She will, but not very well ,clean em . I told her that I will clean em and you can cook em . 1 sec later she said well that's a deal !
I say take her along but make sure she completely understands that it,s gunna be a FISHING trip . And if she has other plans than make them without you because you WILL be fishing !

 

[jbcurt00]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

I think you should just suck it up and bring her along.

Don't forget the Chloroform......

Wow Lipp, ever thought about being a marriage counselor? :facepalm:

Damn funny though :watermelon: Thanks................

Rivermouse: Mine ONLY wants to bobber fish for bluegill w/ meal worms (they don't squish icky stuff all over). But I'll take her everytime she asks, anytime she wants. She'll bait her own hooks & unhook her own catches (as long as they don't swallow the hook).

She puts up w/ plenty of my BS so if she wants to go, we go. Besides, I enjoy being outdoors & out of the house w/ her.

Wasn't always this way. I often got the 'look' for solo fishing, more about being in 'remote' parts of California solo then w/out her.

I know it isn't ideal, if FISHING is the goal. We only catch & release, so it'll never be about the catch.

I will tell you that I have said something along the lines of: I need some time solo, not time AWAY from her. They're 2 totally different things, IMHO. The latter has also been true, though. Coming up on 21yrs......

Good luck, don't look at it as lose~lose, look at it as a reason to USE the boat next spring & summer.... And use a few of the suggestions above.

Not sure how any of the suggestions ensure a happy happy wife, but the current course suggests an unhappy wife, and THAT isn't ever ANY FUN WHAT-SO-EVER..... Been there too....


Good luck

 

[roscoe]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

Scott: "Roscoe, I think your math is a bit light."

If you catch lots of fish, or have a cheap boat, the numbers work. I have a cheap boat.



ngt: "if I get out to a good spot and get some time in, and then she has to pee,"

Believe it or not, but my uncle makes his wife and daughters hang over the side of a 14' tinnie to pee. He won't let them use a bucket. Thats just asking for trouble in my opinion.



Bubba: "seems like taking her fishing is better than giving her half of everything and writing a fat alimony check every month until the end of time. "


Does the misses concur ? No, don't go ask her.



jigngrub: "What's so hard about telling her it's going to be a fishin' trip and if she wants to come along she can but all you're going to do is fish? "


Exactly. Tell her to bring a friend to keep her company, because you will be on the pier or sleeping.

 

[rivermouse]

Re: Taking a non fishing wife fishing.

Friends thank you for the insight on my real problem. Posting and reading your answers at the very least kept me busy on the computer and my mouth shut to her or that would be another losing situation. I just was reminded late today that I have a doctors exam appointment I cant miss first thing Monday. That screws up any possible plans to go before then. Next the wife has a group dinner on Tuesday night so that kills another day from any plans. My plan now is to be extra nice and with her now knowing that the delay after delay has aggravated me that her Tuesday plans will delay any departure even longer that she will just say to go ahead without her because she doesn't want to delay it any longer...My van will already be loaded and within seconds of her saying that I WILL BE GONE ....