Tragedy....maybe, maybe not.....

[daselbee]

Guys......

I just answered a member...question...doesn't matter what it was about....but....

He was from the area I grew up in. Kinda spurred memories.

So, I grew up in the 1970's in a house that would remind you of Gone With the Wind....a southern plantation home.
When I was there, in the 1970s, it was already 158 years old, columns on the front porch, hand hewn timbers and hand made bricks from the Catawba river, NC as the foundation. A slave actually died in the living room, after being gored by a bull. Really.

I moved away in 1979, but my parents stayed. They died. My sister stayed, and just recently sold off the 130 acres.

So, here is where I am going......

The new owners just burned the house. To the ground.

You young guys may not get it....but when you get older....you will.
Your old man's outboard will mean so much more to you.
Your old homeplace will mean so much more.

You will remember this post. And if you don't, well.....you should.

Remember.. It is all we have.

 

[QC]

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I moved this over to Dockside daselbee.

Sorry to hear that, and I understand. My wife and I have been debating how our boys and our nephews feel about family, nostalgia etc. This seems to be a trait that varies from person to person. I know my brother is more sentimental than I am, and our middle son is very emotional about family things. When he was around 4 or 5 we got rid of a coffee table and he lost it. Didn't seem like a big deal then, but that type of thing is still important to him today

 

[Fishing Dude too]

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Guys......

I just answered a member...question...doesn't matter what it was about....but....

He was from the area I grew up in. Kinda spurred memories.

So, I grew up in the 1970's in a house that would remind you of Gone With the Wind....a southern plantation home.
When I was there, in the 1970s, it was already 158 years old, columns on the front porch, hand hewn timbers and hand made bricks from the Catawba river, NC as the foundation. A slave actually died in the living room, after being gored by a bull. Really.

I moved away in 1979, but my parents stayed. They died. My sister stayed, and just recently sold off the 130 acres.

So, here is where I am going......

The new owners just burned the house. To the ground.

You young guys may not get it....but when you get older....you will.
Your old man's outboard will mean so much more to you.
Your old homeplace will mean so much more.

You will remember this post. And if you don't, well.....you should.

Remember.. It is all we have.

I know what you are saying but the house I grew up in has powder post beatles. Is pre civil war it is been sold outside the family for the first time, and I don't miss it, maybe because of bad memories that are there. But understand your feelings, maybe you should have bought it. Just sayin this because only way to have kept it. They may have done the math and decided cheeper to build than fix problems.

 

[greenbush future]

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I will be crossing this type of path soon as my parents lakefront home which my mom grew up in, will become my siblings and mine . The problem is, I'm the only one who will even want it. This house was the old Dodge family sumer home from the early 1900's and its got history and memories. My guess is it will be sold, because I know I cant aford to buy them out and keep this monster running the way it needs to be.

 

[sschefer]

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In a somewhat similar situation.. The family home is no mansion but still worth a mil in today's market. 8 years ago my Dad asked me to move back in, (I was 50 and single with my own home). He confided in me only that he was dying of cancer and needed my help. My Dad and I never got along and if he'd done the things he did to me as a kid today they'd put him in prison. It was a tough decision but I decided that I would do it not for him but for my Mom.

3 Years later he passed and it was a battle. He was only in the hospital for a week and everyone thought he went fast but they never had clue. Heck my Mom didn't even know so I guess I did good. He cursed me in the end by asking me to make sure the house was taken care of so that Mom would have a place and not have to move. I've been there 8 years now and it's time to get my life back.

Recently Mom suggested that I should buy my sister and brother out and keep the house. At first it sounded like a good idea and then the more I thought about it the more I realized that I really hated that place. Sure there's sentimental value but there are also a lot of painful and posionous memorys that need to be buried and forgotten.

Sorry Mom, but when you're gone, the house is gone too.

 

[JB]

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Our sentimental attachments are to places and things that bring back pleasant memories. They may go, but the memories will survive.

A good friend grew up in a multimillion dollar mansion on a canal in Ft. Lauderdale. When her Dad died she sold it for 5 megabux. The new owners only wanted the location, so they tore it down. She salvaged the marble bath from her bathroom and put it in her new house in Orlando.

 

[roscoe]

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I will be crossing this type of path soon as my parents lakefront home which my mom grew up in, will become my siblings and mine . The problem is, I'm the only one who will even want it. This house was the old Dodge family sumer home from the early 1900's and its got history and memories. My guess is it will be sold, because I know I cant aford to buy them out and keep this monster running the way it needs to be.

Hopefully your parents will not leave real property to multiple persons, with undivided interest in the whole.

It has ruined many families.

 

[PS94]

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Did they burn the home intentionally?!??!

 

[Bob_VT]

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Ahhhhh but they will never steal the memories......

 

[daselbee]

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Did they burn the home intentionally?!??!

Yes. They did not want the structure there. You know, they called out the fire department, and the FD used it as a training exercise.

 

[glenn property of pam]

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memory is a wonderful thing. the paint was brighter the rooms were larger the winters were warmer and life was good. i went to my parents on vacation first time in 4 years back in the uk. dam the house shrunk and i freezing cold all the time. still had a great time and made some good memorys with my folks and my kids. as for the house its bigger and warmer now or thats how i remeber the vacation