Wow,
I defer to your experience. I've never seen a collar lock accidentally uncoupling. Then again, I've never seen a RV manufacturer use a collar lock coupler. I don't have a lot of experience, but I have built equipment, and boat trailers, on and off, since 1975. The way a collar lock works you would have to shear the cast steel coupler or the steel hinge. Both are unlikely. With most other ball couplers all you have to do is overcome a stamped sheet metal latch. There is a reason that a good collar lock costs about 4 times what a stamped sheet metal coupler costs.
Post some pictures of the failed collar lock you have experience with and I'll post pictures of a failed 25,000 # stamped sheet metal coupler that failed with only 6,500# on it, that I have experience with.
This is a good learning experience for all of us. Thank you for you input.