What a weekend...........UPDATE

LippCJ7

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So as most of you know I am full on on my lifes new direction and then this weekend hits.


To be honest I am not the most Spiritual guy, I tried not to ask much from God throughout my life in the belief that I can do it myself, God has his own problems to deal with but man give me a sign will ya

My mom had two sisters, her next youngest sister died to Breast Cancer 10 or 15 years ago, she put up a heck of a fight but Cancer took her.

So a couple weeks ago I find out that my other Aunt has Lung Cancer, shes not my Aunt to me since my Moms family came from Iowa and was a big Farming family my Aunt is less then 10 years older then I am so in actuality she is my older sister and me being the oldest child in my family she was a huge part of my life as I grew up.

My Mom is a three time Cancer Survivor, Breast cancer twice and Ovarian cancer most recently, she is the definition of Strength and love to me.

Thursday I found out that my Aunt's Cancer is untreatable, the aggressive treatment she would have to go through would only have a detrimental affect on the remaining life she has left and therefore the recommendation is to not do anything and giver her the chance to live her remaining life as best she can, now the tough part, 2 weeks to 3 months.

Saturday, With her history with Cancer and her sisters situation my mom felt it was a good idea to go see her Cancer Doctor, her Doctor Immediately took her to MRI for a full body scan, you guessed it a mass in her lung, Biopsy scheduled this coming week.

When I got the call about my mom I was numb to it, I have seen the chemo and radiation tear my moms brain power and body structure down to a frail woman who can't remember things sometimes. My Grandmother is likely to survive her three daughters, her battle with (advanced)Alzheimers is likely to make it easier for her but I have to wonder at this point am I going loose my Grandmother, Mom and Older sister this year.

I don't know why I am posting this, maybe using the internet to get this off my shoulders, I'm going to church tomorrow with my wife, hopefully for some relief. I worked my tail off yesterday, digging holes for new trees, helped my wife in her garden and had a couple beers to knock the edge off, I don't remember going to bed last night LOL I think I was asleep before my head hit the pillow.
 

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Lipp, my heart bleeds for you, buddy. I lost my father to throat cancer when he was 51, my wife lost her mother just a few years ago to breast/bone cancer, and we all have friends we have lost along the way. I have never been very spiritual throughout my life, although I have tried. Many different churches, different aspects of religion, etc. Apparently true faith is a gift to which, as of yet, I have not been given. However, when the time comes and I get to stand before God to answer for my life, He had better answer me this: "Why do bad things happen to good people"?

Be strong for the rest of your family as they will grieve the same as you do. If you need to keep things out in the open on the discussion forums, just to let loose, to vent, or just a release, rest assured we will be here to help as much as we can.
 

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Stay strong my Friend. For you, your family, and everything that matters to you.

Just be there for them; and try to focus upon how much simply that will mean to them.
 

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Lipp, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I wish you and your family the best.
 

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Sad news Lipp. My eyes are watery now but I will try to share with you.

I lost Mom and Dad to cancer. Mom fought a five year battle with lymphoma. Dad went quick with brain cancer. Went through it with a friend that passed. I loved them and miss them.

About six years ago I discovered I had lymphoma, cancer of the thyroid, and a tumor on my brain. Two years of treatments left me helpless. I weighed a little over 90lbs. I spent all my savings. I spent another year getting over the treatments, which many thought I couldn't make it.

I never cried for myself until the day I felt I was going to be fine. I'll tell you, nothing, I mean nothing, is harder than seeing a loved one go through this. I will take cancer anyday than see somebody have to go through the tough battle that I have seen....and felt.

Good luck, Buddy!
 

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Thoughts and prayers to you and yours. I do have some understanding of what you are going thru, wife's mother had colon cancer, not treatable at the time, my mother survived breast cancer and right at the end the cancer came back, not sure if it really got her or not, I do know it worked on her mentally, she was 80 at the time and already sick from other things.
 

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Lipp,

my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Be as strong as you can be. Also spend as much time with both of them that you can.
 

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Hang tight, Lipp. They need your support more than ever.
 

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Chris, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I understand what you are going through and feel your pain. I also understand some of your questioning and thoughts as you face the future. You have my number, don't hesitate to call anytime you would like to talk.
 

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^^^ I'll second that. ^^^

... and if for some reason you and Art can't connect, send me a PM. I'll be glad to talk some of it over too.

Providence is a strange thing sometimes, especially from our perspective. It can sometimes lead us to think that the world is senseless and completely cold to the human experience. It's not, but it's quite difficult to see that sometimes.

We'll be thinking of you and your family, and praying for you all.
 

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My heart goes out to you and your family. If you have to let it all out I am sure we will all support you any way we can.
 

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Thoughts and prayers are with you.
 

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Hang in there Lipp. We're all here rootin' for you and yours.


<<)))(((>>
 

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Hang in there and be patient...your answers will come in time.
 

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Lost a brother (young) and father (young) to cancer.

I guess you'll get into a mode where you stop thinking and just start doing. Just plowing ahead as it's the only thing to do.

It's okay to say it sucks. It's okay to be mad. It's okay to come on here and ramble out and just have people give you an encouraging word.

To others who share their own personal stories, such as Sasto, just... Wow. Lot's of big time people out there. Wish I knew some of you better than just on some message board where we bust each other's chops and pass time here on the web.

Free smile, because hey... why not: :)
 

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Lipp, my man. Sometimes telling a group of people you don't know about your problems helps right? Like a boat forum! :D

I never know what to say to someone that is going through what you are. Like I'm gonna have a step by step solution to fixing everything. Unfortunately there isn't a "Cancer fix" in the restoration part of the forum. Sometimes life is overwhelming, especially when it's consitantly overwhelming. I always felt better when someone made me smile or laugh.

So I farted really loud, and I hope you can hear it! It stinks... The people in the surrounding area are not happy with me.

Chin-up man, my thoughts and prayers to you, your wife, your family.
 

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Some things in life had left me with a sense of loss, some a lingering fear. Now I have chosen to learn from a crisis than let it overcome me. Some of us are lucky if we must face only one serious crisis in our lives. At times I take comfort in the company of those that have suffered greater ordeals, and survived

Perhaps more important, having known loss and suffering first hand, has given me a new understanding of the millions that know nothing else.

Good luck, my friend.....Livestrong!

http://www.livestrong.org/
 

LippCJ7

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Thanks everyone, I can't tell you how much I appreciate the thoughts, prayers, kind thoughts and even the Fart!LOL I don't have any further info as of yet, with cancer treatments things go pretty fast but seems like it takes forever.

As for posting this here I can say it was a great feeling to get it off my shoulders, I have a hard time talking to people I don't trust so while it helped to talk to Father at Church my Brothers have been my biggest support group, add a couple Harley rides and I have my Therapy for now, I'm not like most guys I really like Solitude so I may take a couple days and go to the Mountains, call it a spring scouting trip for Falls Elk hunt or something and get close to Mother Nature or something, but I have to be careful the Girls need me now too so balancing my time is going to be tough

Thank you all again I can't tell you how much it means to me
 

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Some people say that there a reason for everything and that there is a 'master plan' somewhere. In the case of someone like Sasto, it's obvious to see that we was meant to stay around a while a bring a little sunshine into others lives. I know he has brought much into ours. Therefore, if your family members have moved onto other pastures, don't mourn for them. Celebrate their lives and enrich others' with stories and friendship. That will keep their spirits alive longer than science ever could.
 

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Wishing you and yours strength, I know its tough.
 
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