Woman problems

[magster65]

As some of you know I have a 2 year old son that lives with me. Shortly after his mother 'moved on' I started dating this woman. She was just a friend then things developed in to something more serious. Over the past 3 or 4 months there's been a change... she wants to party all the time and spends 1/2 the time at the neighbors place with her 'best friend' (female). They sit there playing cards and drinking wine all night. I've spent a couple nights there and it is a lot of fun but... this is getting carried away. Now she's missing work and acting like a donkey. We've talked about it but it continues and now she's being rude if I mention it. So I'm done talking... she's not listenening anyway. My son is my priority and I don't need this as an example of how someone should live thier life. I feel totally betrayed (for my son as well). This is 'black and white' to me and the way I think I'd best end this sooner then later. What would you do?

 

[one more cast]

Re: Woman problems

Only you know the answer to your question Magstar65.

 

[LadyFish]

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Magster, you're on the right track. Run for your life. She is obviously too immature and selfserving. You don't need that, you already have a child. Its seems to me, you are not her first priority so where could the realtionship go.<br /><br />There are good women out there, one that will be a loving and caring Mom to you're beautiful boy. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you with her, but I'm happy you're finding out sooner rather than later.<br /><br />Good luck my friend.

 

[KaGee]

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End it. Move on and don't let the next one have any emotional attachment to the young one until there is a serious relationship that will end in marriage.

 

[KeltonKrew]

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call it quits. She's more interested in her "friend" than she is in you or your son. Both of you deserve better. You need a family unit, not 1 (could be) parent just doing as she wishes and ignoring her family. She is showing her colors...<br /><br />you my friend need to find someone who will respect you for who you are and be there for you and your son, just as you would be there for her.<br /><br />just my .02 worth

 

[Elmer Fudge]

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Move on, wish her all the best

 

[Limited-Time]

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"My son is my priority" You said it all there. You're dead on course, her-selfishness has clearly missed the boat. Stay your course and distance your family from the situation. Plenty of great her-selves out there.

 

[kenimpzoom]

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Are your long term goals to get married again? If so, dump her.<br /><br />If not, maybe have her move out (use some lame excuse), but keep her as a friend.<br /><br />Also, remember the exwife could somehow use this against you if a custody hearing were to come up.<br /><br />Ken

 

[NOSLEEP]

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You're feelings are your guide.<br />I would do what you are about to do.

 

[AzMeadMan]

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Everyone is right. Run and don’t look back. My wife did the same thing after 7 years of marriage. I spent the next 6 years trying to straighten her out. It never works unless they want it to and apparently your lady doesn’t. I finally divorced her and our daughter and I had to watch her slowly kill herself. That took another 5 years. She passed in March. Save yourself and especially your son a lot of pain and misery. End it now.

 

[knobby]

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All are right, you need to rethink a lot of things. If the boy is still swearing and you think it's funny, that's just as bad. Maybe rethink that whole direction too.

 

[rwise]

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ASAP move on, I tried to talk to my "X" wife for 6 months (kids are grown) when she started doing this same thing ( though I don't think cards were invovled). She would not listen to me or talk to me about what was going on. I wish I had cut her loose sooner! Again, I agree with what is said above, time for a change, make it so.<br />Richard

 

[EZLoader]

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She sounds like an alcoholic (spends half her time at neighbors: drinks wine every night).<br /><br />If that's the case, I would end the relationship...you won't change her.

 

[neumanns]

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Take your son out to the garage with you and build somthing really cool with him....We all know ya have a knack for that.<br /><br />Getting your mind on somthing else will help ya to see more clearly what we can see...and you are seeing but denying<br /><br />Can a man say this...we care about ya dude, your a good guy with awsome priority's!

 

[Barbee Q]

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That's is a hard one.. The hardest part is trying to distance yourself, because I am sure you still like this person alot.. But the boy comes first..<br />You have a son and this lady has only been around for 4 months.. Well it happens.. I was in your shoes also and it really sucks and hurts...<br />Sorry to hear about your problem..<br />Just be happy you have life, love and a beautiful son, food on the table, a roof over head, a good sence to not fall into a bad scene that will bring problems to you and your home..<br />Good Luck and Take Care..

 

[alden135]

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Sounds like she's playing for both teams. Your post sounds like you know what to do. Good luck.

 

[oddjob]

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I can relate to AzMeadMan. The time frame and resolve is almost verbatim in my situation except the last. Peace to you and your daughter.<br /><br />Magster,<br />She sounds like a fun date once in a while, but I would get her out of the house if she is living there. Tell her you need your space back and never let her back in on a permenant basis. You owe her nothing and your son everything. Sounds like your in a very convenient place for her. <br /><br />Something better will come along when the time is right. <br /><br />Good luck and a fine son you have Magster.

 

[dolluper]

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Dump her quick and run,you must know that by now.Not good for your son to see those kind of actions,drunks are drunks nasty.Go find yourself a real caring women if you can .Good Luck

 

[Barbee Q]

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This may not work, but I used this one on my ex..<br />If you want to stay out all nite get drunk party and smoke pot that is fine with me, go live with them.. I packed him up so fast and delivered him to his good'ol buddy house. Even called ahead and found out he had a spare room for rent. Done deal.. A month later he was ready to come back, because his buddy pawned his stereo system and was stealing money from him.. Go figure..<br />If she is living with you than you have bigger problem.<br />From experience you needed to lay down some ground rules..

 

[wilkin250r]

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Honestly, the best thing you can do for your son is a loving, caring relationship with his new stepmom.<br /><br />It doesn't sound like THIS is destined to be that relationship.<br /><br />Do you anticipate problems when you finally give this woman the boot? A big fight, lot's of screaming and throwing things? If so, arrange to have your son out of the picture, at a relative's house. <br /><br />Or, pack up her stuff while she's out, put it in a storage unit, and fork over $500 for a month in a hotel. If complications were to arise later on for wrongful eviction, nobody could say that you threw her out on the street. That's what I did with my ex. $600, and I was done with the problem.