Woman problems

[DJ]

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magster,<br /><br />Come on. You see all the signs of a disaster. Do you REALLY want to walk in front of that freight train?

 

[magster65]

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Yeah, I know what I have to do and most of you are of the same thoughts. Well, tonight's as good as any I guess. With any luck I can catch a few moments with her before she heads over to the card palace.<br /> ah hahaha... how silly. <br />I'm only laughing on the outside, we've done a lot of cool stuff together. I'll miss 'the real' her. I loved the woman but as she becomes this 'idiot' for lack of a better word, the feelings are going fast. I feel 1/2 betrayed, 1/2 heartbreak... it's not good. Now for the past few days she's got this attitude where she's all mad at me for raising the issue. I'm done. Now I hope she gets big n' fat... is that wrong? <br />knobby... I have thought out this 'direction' as you put it and 'funny' was more of a figure of speech than anything. I try to protect my son from 'bad stuff' and swearing is bad.

 

[Barbee Q]

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I wish you alot of luck on your venture tonite..<br />Hope it doesn't get to ugly.

 

[Link]

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Hey Magster<br />It's not my place to Judge another person but if she is going down a road that you don't want to travel then it's your choice to follow or not.<br />But you know that <br />BTDT and yea, it can hurt too! <br />Best wishes

 

[JasonJ]

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Mag, there wasn't a change. She is only just now showing her true self after keeping that aspect of her personality on the back burner. I would ask how old she is, but none of it is relevant. The only thing that matters is how it makes you feel. Obviously you don't need that around your child, and if it doesn't make you happy, why bother. Lifes too short brother, put that *** out on the curb, there is always another one to take her place. Good luck....

 

[Trent]

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Run Forrest Run!!

 

[Fly Rod]

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only you hold the answer!!!!<br /><br />I myself wouldn't want to be playing cards every nite and getting drunk!!!!!i'm surethere are better things to do!!!!<br /><br />Sounds like a loser!!!!! not good for children!!!!!

 

[Mark42]

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Ahhhhh, yep, it's time to go. But you knew that already, didn't ya? <br /><br />This is a good time to make a written life plan with short and long term goals. It is really interesting what you will realize and what becomes more or less important as you list goals and think of the results or consequences of attaining those goals. <br /><br />Writing it all down is the key to this exercise being of value. Make two lists, title one "What I want to accomplish by October 2006" and the other "Where I want to be in October 2011". Of course you don't have to commit to anything, just seeing what you come up with will give you better insight to what you really want. <br /><br />Regards,<br /><br />Mark

 

[magster65]

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I just made dinner, took the little man for a pull in his wagon, played cars, watched Finding Nemo (again), gave him a bath, read him a book and put him to bed. I'm feeling really good at the moment. I don't want to pospone the inevitable but I also don't want to spoil a nice evening. I'll deal with the 'crap' tomorrow.<br /><br />Mark, that's funny you suggest writing lists of long term and short term goals. I do that! The lists get modified occasionally but the same non-material items are always there.<br />Thanks

 

[Mark42]

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Two is a really cool age for kids. They are just beginning to express themselves with words, everything is so impressive to them. They have to tell you everthing even if you don't understand it all. <br /><br />My son turns two next month. Last night we spent some time just sitting on the floor in his room playing with toy cars. So simple yet he was so thrilled. <br /><br />And they learn so fast. I asked him who wrote on the wall with a crayon (I knew it was him). He walks over to the scribble marks, points to it, looks me straight in the eye and says "Amber" (his 6 yr old sister).<br /><br />Gotta love them.

 

[knobby]

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Man, I sure hope wish and pray the best for you and the boy. It's hard enough raising a little one in this day and time with a solid mom and dad family. You're everything to him and he to you. Be the very best dad you can be and he'll pick that up, them kids absorb everything!<br />Once he's big enough to realize you're putting him first, he'll return that and put you first as well, that's what being a great dad's all about. Good luck!!!

 

[SCO]

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Ive seen this very phenom in my own neighborhood. Its a bad environment. Its disloyal in my view. Good thing you find out now. A good wife or husband values the family more than the seduction of drunken friends. Big red flag. Good luck

 

[magster65]

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Thanks for the supportive words.<br />The sleep cleared my head a little more. I've decided to make our separation speech brief instead of the long-winded version that's been going through my head for the past week. I don't think I owe her any explanations... she's a smarty pants, she can figure it out.<br />As Link said, it's my choice to either follow or not... and I'm obviously not but it isn't my duty to judge her or be mad at her either. I still hope she gets big n' fat though. <br />She will

 

[rwise]

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short and to the point, that'll work, probably best for all! And I can wish her a few extra pounds as well! Hang in there you will find the good woman your looking for, it may take some time though.

 

[SCO]

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A long drawn out interaction plan could mean you are ready to listen to some talk about doing better...working it out etc. If you want it to end, little talk is necessary. Those respective messages will be transmitted to her. That's tough Magster, I always had a difficult time with this. Right you are, its your duty to choose your and your son's destiny. Doesn't sound like she or you is ready for a commitment in this relationship..no blame req'd. <br />Disclaimer..this is your call. We've turned into iOprah here.

 

[lakelivin]

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Originally posted by magster65:<br /> .... I'll miss 'the real' her. ...

Unfortunately, both parts are probably 'the real her'. People are complex, and I bet it just happened that you got to see the 'negative' aspects of her personality after you formed an impression based on the 'positive' aspects. <br /><br />Thank goodness you did see it this early and can protect your son from the negative collateral damage that would have likely occured had the relationship gone very far....

 

[magster65]

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Thanks SCO wish her a good 50 extra pounds for me.<br />Lakelivin - I think you're at least partially right but she's changed too. People continually change and you either grow together or grow apart and we grew apart.<br />Either way, it's done... this morning. It was 'short and sweet' and I didn't hang around for the argument. I said that her actions have left us no choice but to seperate for good... and that's the truth. I'm sure whatever contact we have from this point forward will eventually fade away. That's fine by me. <br />Now, have ya' seen the babe that BD's settin' me up with? Meeeeeow!

 

[SCO]

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Way to go Magster. This thing is bigger than you. You've got to be sure to provide the right woman for your son and self. In my view, without any experience or real basis for this view since I've been lucky in choosing a wife, no woman would be better than a bad choice.

 

[magster65]

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Originally posted by SCO:<br /> I've been lucky in choosing a wife, no woman would be better than a bad choice.

OK, let's see how things go before we start talkin' about (gulp) no woman.

 

[Barbee Q]

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Magster at least you walked away with your pride..<br />I'm sure you may have spent a little money here and there on her, but at least you woke up, before she really cleaned you out.<br />I got taken for a few hundred and my credit..<br />Started getting bills for cable, and some other minor stuff and faught 2 long years trying to clear it up.. It cost me another grand to get most of it streighten out.. I got stuck holding the bag.. Oh,well it happens... Now I check my credit, bank stuff, accts, dmv reports every week. Just incase.. Dmv is every 6months.. Sounds crazy but if you ever had to deal with a tapped acct. you'd do the same..<br />Capitol One was the worst... If you get sick, you better make sure you are paying for insurance, beause they will deny it.. They have their ways and got a law suit on them from others and me.. I won a whole 5 dollars from the 2 year suit..