Would you just leave?

[emilsr]

Re: Would you just leave?

There are a lot of us in this club Woody. I know it doesn't help ease the pain but you're not alone....not by a long shot.

First wife did the same thing. We split up for a year then reconciled. The reconciliation lasted about 4 years but then we split up again and eventually divorced. Why? I just couldn't forgive her....and I think that's a common thing. Stuff like that just doesn't ever go away. If I had it to do all over again I would have divorced her right away and saved myself the pain and suffering of those years.

Fast forward a few years.....have the life (and the woman) I want now. It will get better. Do what you have to do and get on with your life. This one didn't work out; learn your lessons and don't make the same mistakes next time. That's the best anyone can do. In time you'll be a better man for the experience.

Best of luck!

 

[Betterthannothin]

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I guess everyone is different, but I can forgive a lot. However not cheating, it's a deal breaker. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. Good luck, but my answer is get out while you can.

 

[Yacht Dr.]

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Nobody can say for sure m8..

Nobody HERE can build a good relationship councel.

Asking to Dump or Keep a Heartfelt Bond .. well its beyond Anything that Outsiders Know about ( I KNOW ).

Wrong forum IMO.. just too much to ask.

YD.

Im tellin the Truth here...last post on this one..

Its just ( without Knowing everyone ) impossible to suggest one to "kick to the curb" .. or " work it out " .. just not a good idea for Anyone to suggest Anything..

Its Your Heart...its Your feelings..Is it Your Life !!...

Dont let Anyone on this web ( any and all forums ) curb Your Feelings.. they are Yours and yours alone..

Sometimes you have to go through things in life that have one independant decision... this might be yours...

Its You..and Your life ... Its up to you basically..you can get suggestions.but its All You man..No regrets and NOBODY told you what to do..

I know ..

YD.

 

[ezbtr]

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if she did it once and not feelin responsible, no counseling etc, leave her, life is too short...

 

[Mark42]

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My first wife asked me for a divorce. I could not understand why. Later I figured out why she was so unhappy. She wanted to be with someone else, and carried on with them while we were separated. After our divorce, he dumped her. Turns out he really preferred little girls over legal age women. A few years after the divorce, I heard that she had an abortion while we were married. So I did a little digging into the old file cabinet and found the paperwork for having a "turmor" removed. Yep it was an abortion. I was so naive I believed anything she told me. Last week I hear she is divorced again. Meanwhile I've been happily married for 13 years with two of my own kids.

I made a choice that was right for me. You need to decide what is the right choice for you.

 

[floatingwoody2006]

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Wow. As im looking at all these posts, im seeing alot of grief, heartache, and honesty. i hope this didn't bring up too many bad memories for you all. Currently rent's are about 1400 a month around here, and i can't afford 2 bills that size monthly, so she remains here. I think because i haven't said get out yet due to my son and im not as cold blooded as maybe i should be, this is only going to hurt worse in the end. Im not sure. taking things like this day by day, we have been civil and even nice to each other today. There is a small hope still in me i guess. We had a small argument about it all again yesterday, and i did bring a bit of this thread up that i thought was relevant. IE: you respected our relationship less than a romp, and i take 50% of the blame for the communication issues right up until the point i changed for you. Now it's time to do it or don't. I have given her many out's if she truly wanted them. What a frigged up life i am living at the moment..Love her, but realize she want's to try but is either incapable, or unwilling. A short time will tell, but my patience with the whole situation is short. Thanks again,.

 

[LippCJ7]

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Keep your head up Woody, only you can decide the best course of action for you and your family

My family's thoughts and prayers are with you

 

[lncoop]

Re: Would you just leave?

Keep your head up Woody, only you can decide the best course of action for you and your family

My family's thoughts and prayers are with you

Mine too.