Re: "You just need to listen" ~ Any married guys able to understand and relate to t
Re: "You just need to listen" ~ Any married guys able to understand and relate to t
This is part of the tragicomedy we all call marriage. We (the men) are present to "listen"; to do our healing by enabling the woman to express herself, to "heal" her inner self. That's our soul purpose in such an instance - to function as a sympathetic sounding board. You see, you replaced that function in her life when you married her and displaced all her old friends who previously performed that function.
We, on the other hand, want to ignore all the peripherals, drive to the root of the problem, and solve it - pop the pimple, yank the shoulder back into joint, throw away the painful shoes, no matter how "in" they are. And in this, there's the incompatibility between them and us.
Our differences are based in their desire to analyze the pain and make the connection between it and all the minimally painful elements in her life. Ours is to recognize a problem and solve it. These are the same biological differences which result in our bringing home a bucket of fish to cook, and her vacillating between an orange-peel rub and some preposterous marinade while we clean up in the shower. "Cook it woman, I'm hungry!"
These are the differences that attract us to each other.
....in theory...
So sometimes I don't listen and sometimes I forget. Which leads to never ending [yack session]