Are all wives like this?

[Brian 26]

Re: Are all wives like this?

Year one of marriage: Me - "If I sell the boat for Y and add X amt more money then we could buy something like this...." Her (listening intently) - "oh cool, that sounds good"

Year 4 of marriage - same statement by me she would just roll her eyes and say something to the tune of "I don't want to be without a boat this summer"

Year 8 of marriage - Me "hey check out the boat I just bought"

"Happy wife, happy life."

:facepalm: Please report to the nearest Buffalo Wild Wings franchise and turn in your man card. Just giving you flak, but that phrase grates on me because it makes me think guys are tip toeing around their wives and have to go out of their way to make them happy.

 

[JimS123]

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This is a hobby, not a financial investment. I think anyone who is worried about the small stuff, like hobbies would indicate other issues. If your hobby is affecting your ability to meet your financial goals, your hobby should be adjusted. Any wife that would deny you your hobby isn't worth keeping around. I wouldn't deny my other half what ever she wanted to play around with, she doesn't ask for my approval either. Heck you only have so many tomorrows, so do it toady, but be wise about it. If you have to ask permission, you should take a look at the big picture and adjust her attitude!! I think the first mistake was asking, I understand getting buy in, I would not ask a question I didn't already know the answer to.

Perfect! That says it all.

And to answer the original question - no, not all wives are that way.

 

[agallant80]

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I think the best tactic is to not share money. I can do what I want with mine and she can do what she likes with hers.

 

[bowler]

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I think the best tactic is to not share money. I can do what I want with mine and she can do what she likes with hers.

agreed.

d.

 

[Maclin]

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My wife does not like to boat or camp or anything much related, likes movies though. This year I got another boat, smaller and just for me, lake ready in great shape. She got a new theater style seating group with dual electric recliners, brand new. Prices for each were within a few dollars. Every once in a while I ask her if I can sit in her boat.

 

[JimS123]

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My wife has things she likes to do by herself, and so do I. Each is only part time though, so to speak. Its sad when the whole family can't get together for the majority of the free time.

The boat is something we do TOGETHER. The kids went along when they were small. Now they have their own boats. We often meet up with them on the sandbar.

 

[lncoop]

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My wife has things she likes to do by herself, and so do I. Each is only part time though, so to speak. Its sad when the whole family can't get together for the majority of the free time.

The boat is something we do TOGETHER. The kids went along when they were small. Now they have their own boats. We often meet up with them on the sandbar.

Love this. Awesome, Jim.

 

[kat-a-tonik]

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Yeah they are all like this, im in a similar situation. We need a ( new to us ) motor our old 58 model needs a new flywheel key, it's an odd key and im having trouble finding one, We both want a 25 hp. I have found a few that I would buy but she says they are to old, I find a newer model and she doesn't want to pay that much, I cant get her to understand that to get what she wants we will have to spend at the least $1500 to $2000.

 

[UncleWillie]

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...She always ends up saying, "Do what you want, you're going to anyway."...

After many years, I have come to the conclusion that when you ask for a Suggestion/Opinion,
they feel you are asking for them to make the Decision. hwell:

The issue comes up when you make the decision that is not in compliance with her Suggestion you will invariable get the, "If you are not going to listen to what I said, Why did you ask me in the first place!", Speech! :faint2:

 

[Lager]

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After years of listening to the wife say the same thing "Do what you want to, your going to anyways" and then me second guessing and sometimes NOT doing what I want to.
I finally gave up and now just buy or do what I want to, withing reason of course. Yeah, she gets mad sometimes and make me pay for it.
But, shes always going to be mad about something, I might as well get something out of it.

 

[saxrulez]

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Sometimes it is hard for a person to see the potential that someone else does. My wife was horrified when I brought our boat home at first. Fast forward 4 years now and she can't imagine us ever not owning a boat now.

 

[tomdinwv]

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I must be a lucky guy. My wife loves to boat, camp and fish. Her idea of a great day is trolling/drifting in the jon boat while bass fishing. We had sold our "big" boat a few years ago and bought a camper. She was always ready to go. We decided to sale the camper because we couldn't use it as much as we liked. Hard to get away for 2 or 3 days at a time. I happened to say something about wanting another boat. Next thing I know, she found one she wanted to go look at. It fit the bill for what we wanted and we bought it.

She laughed when I brought home the jon boat. Said it was the ugliest thing she had ever seen. After the first trip, she was in love with it. I cleaned it up and did some work to it to get it into shape and now I'm not allowed to get rid of it. All I have to say is "you want to go fishin'". She's ready to go before I can get the boat hooked to the truck. LOL

 

[pullin]

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This is a quote about airplanes, but it applies to boats just fine.

In the back of Flying Magazine, a pilot named Gordon Baxter used to have a column answering airplane owner's questions. The following question got an hilarious answer (not that I'm advocating this).

Queston: "Hey Bax, My wife just doesn't like flying. What should I do?"
Baxter: "My first wife didn't like it either."

And if you'll forgive me another quote... this from my 4-times-divorced coworker. He was lamenting his money woes after the last divorce. "I'm not gettin' married again. Next time I'm just gonna go to a bar, find a woman I don't like, and give her my house. It'll probably be cheaper."

And I guess I should add my own story. After I flew down to Houston, found a boat and "surprised" her by having it delivered up here, her response was the following: "But we already HAVE a boat!" Women, always worried about little details.

 

[Sandi_k]

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I agree she probably isn't experienced enough to see the potential that you do. YOUR experience means you see things that she can't.

If I were you, I'd find a picture of a nice, finished boat, similar to what you know you'll end up with. Then SHOW her that, along with the Project Boat. Show her "Hey, when I'm done we're going to have this setup. Do you like the layout, the length, the color, the amenities? Because if this is what you like, we can do it with the Project Boat, and save $10k with me doing the labor instead of the shop."

That will give her enough information so that she understands 1) what she'll end up with; 2) that it's gonna take $10K of labor (at .10 per hour? ) and 3) that you have MAD SKILZ.

The only other thing I'll mention (and yes, I have a DH who is very skilled with tools, craftsmanship and DIY) is that if you already have 20 projects that you've started, in a pile in your 2 workshops and 3 garage bays, this may be her way of saying you're overcommitted. If you start projects and don't finish them, finish a few first, and THEN say "Hey, I finished up the coffee table, the motorcyle carburetor, and the deck project - I think it's time for a boat project."

Ask me how I know.

 

[Maclin]

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I imagine the wives in the background are wondering if all husbands are like us

 

[edthearcher]

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so iam retired my wifes younger than me, when shes off work and we meet by accident in the house she replies what you doing, da does it make a difference ??? by a used car take it to get the oil changed, da why are you doing this its new, so you explain this to her, that much money for a oil change? just bought a used 22 foot sea ray pachanga last nov. she wants to take a vacation up the mississippi river. explain need new tire on the trailer before i tow it 150 miles they look good to me was the reply. so were having coffee in my shop a week ago she gets out a pencil and paper and says now i would like a list on what we have to spend on the boat, and the cabin this year. now dont get me wrong we are lucky to have a good income even tho iam retired so money is not an issue, its just the constant questions. get use to it even tho we love them, we will as men never never figure them out.

 

[YoungMind]

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To solve those problems I figured out how to work my wife to make my projects easier. "Honey what do you not want?"

Works every time