Going through the big "D" and I dont mean Dallas

[aspeck]

Re: Going through the big "D" and I dont mean Dallas

That just sucks, NE. I am in your corner and praying for you, and your wife. Since she seems to be in so much of a hurry to do this, as already said, I would try to stay as calm as possible with her so you do have a chance to see your step daughter.

 

[hunterfab]

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Aspec is right!! ABOVE ALL ELSE BE CALM!!! treat it like a business deal and keep your tounge no matter what is said!!

 

[DayCruiser]

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The big thing that has happened since the old days is----women don't have to depend on men. Women can find jobs and make as much or more than men. Women have birth control so they can't be tied down by a bunch of kiddies. I have found out that it takes a lot of work to keep a women happy. Show them lots of attention, entertainment, appreciation, listening, give and take--ok mostly give LOL, compromising, shop with them, help around the house with laundry and cleaning etc etc etc
You can say you are not doing the above. Well then you are more than likely to end up in divorce court. You can still do all the above and it not work out. But you have a better chance of success
. People also change their likes and dislikes as they get older. Some just fall out of love.
So many reasons marriages fail. Menopause is a good one haha

 

[FBPirate95]

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Yes being civil is the best thing. In my divorce I didn't owe her anything, but I gave her some cash to get her feet on the ground, and made her care payment for a year. (subsequently she didn't take over payments and I had to take the car back with threat of taking her to court for contempt)

Now, besides that, I'm sorry to hear she's moving so fast. She must have already made her mind up. And really if that's the case, there's nothing you can do.

Just remember it always works out. You'll look back on this and see this a growing point in both who you are and how you deal with relationships. Take it as a new beginning.

 

[hunterfab]

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Well... Look at it this way.. The quicker you folks move on it the quicker it will be over and you can move on. Chances are good that if you were able to keep this one around for a while then you should not have any problems finding another! After my divorce I was like a kid in a candy store I just could not belive how many single women were out there! So be glad its going fast just means it wont cost as much!

 

[rbh]

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Gentleman/ladie's, just remember your EX is now someone's elses problem/love!!!
God help them!!!

 

[204 Escape]

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In MY case there were only 2 people that got rich. Lawyers, and liquor stores !!!!


Seriously though, she filed, she gets the notoriaty (sp), for the whole thing. I found that you can't force someone to stay. Her loss. Hell yeah, it will hurt for a while. It will really bother you if/when you see her with someone else. BUT, IMO, you hold your head up, face the world, KNOW that you're not the only one to go through it, and keep on keeping on !!!!!! SOunds to me like she lost the best end of the whole deal !!!!!

GOOD LUCK !!!!!!!!

 

[ezbtr]

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Well, believe it or not, after the cloud passes, life will be better! Hey I've done this twice!! LOL
Good luck!!

 

[kei9th]

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i only stay married is because i am co-dependent. otherwise id be out.

 

[ftl900]

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Even geese do not mate for life as some thought they did.

Yeah, but Black Widow spiders do.

Seriously, I'm on my 4th go-round, and determined to make it stick. She is also on #4 and feels the same way. But there are still times when tempers get hot and the words fly...

Look around for good friends that you can talk to. Find something new to do with your time, and things will be a little bit easier to deal with.

 

[ne7800]

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Look around for good friends that you can talk to. Find something new to do with your time, and things will be a little bit easier to deal with.

I went out tonight and spent a few hours with a couple of the friends that i got "custody" of lol

 

[jcsercsa]

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Ohhh Man Buddie , so sorry to hear that !!! So many people have said it here before me , but really man fallow your heart!! I seen where you said you werent sure if you love her still, it really sounds like you don't if you don't know now !
you need to figure that one out , then go from there !! I tell you what I am so glad I got divorced , I would have never meet Tina. If you do decided on divorce get the best lawyer you can !!! thats how I got the kids !!

Again man I am so sorry to hear that !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you need to talk you still got my number ?? John

 

[JRJ]

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I can understand a divorce or two, but I sure don't understand why anyone would marry three or more times.

 

[dwco5051]

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I can understand a divorce or two, but I sure don't understand why anyone would marry three or more times.

Where were you with this advice back when I needed it?

 

[ezmobee]

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I can understand a divorce or two, but I sure don't understand why anyone would marry three or more times.

This +eleventy billion

 

[bruceb58]

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I can tell you why she is moving so quick. That's because it appears quick to you but she has been thinking about this for a LOT longer and has gone through any soul searching about doing this far longer than when she first told you. I know first hand myself about this as well.

 

[clanton]

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Divorced 6 years ago this month. Married a long time. I was going to send her a thank you card, but was advised not to. Florida is a no fault divorce state, do not need a reason.
Cost a lot of money, family takes sides. The toughest thing I went thru in my Life, but it is over. I`m 71 and will probley never get married again. You want to talk with someone send me private message.

 

[ne7800]

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I can tell you why she is moving so quick. That's because it appears quick to you but she has been thinking about this for a LOT longer and has gone through any soul searching about doing this far longer than when she first told you. I know first hand myself about this as well.

oh how right you are!!!!!!! i recevied a text message today that was ment for someone else that basically said "i should of left him 6 months ago when i was going to"

 

[bruceb58]

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oh how right you are!!!!!!! i recevied a text message today that was ment for someone else that basically said "i should of left him 6 months ago when i was going to"

Wish I wasn't right about that...sorry!

 

[ne7800]

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so does this mean that i should not feel bad and start dating?