Re: Got My Boat Back....Now What????
Consult your local PD. Since the boat is in your name, you may find she's already treading in illegal water.
Probably is.
She doesn't care about any of that stuff. She's just lashing out. Give her what she wants to the extent it's not an unbearable imposition on you, then say no mas. It'll be ugly for a bit. Comes with the territory.
I totally agree, lncoop.
I agree with lncoop (OMG!... did I just say that out loud?), give her what she wants to get her off your back. Heck, give her more than she wants... give her the darn dock lines and PFDs too. Give her everything out of the boat, jar up the bilge water and give her that too (some of it might be hers). Leave it on her door step with a note "Here's all of your stuff".
You....agree with incoop? Me too! I like your thinking, grub. Bilge water? Great idea.
If she didn't clean out the boat before the transfer - tough boobies. I'm sure she signed the paperwork. Maybe you should check in the cushions far any change she left behind, You don't need this. Glad you're feeling better.
Yes, GA. All paperwork is in order. No change, but I did find a new spotlight, hand soap and some WD-40.
Just my take, getting a restraining order is easy and cheap. (In most states) She won't be allowed to come around, call, or in anyway bother you again. The added benefit is she'll catch on that you aren't playing her silly games.
As a side note: I'd bet a buck that if you give her what she wants, she'll come up with some other way to make you miserable. He** hath no fury and all that...
How correct you are, Bubba! I wouldn't bet you even a buck on this one.
An ex is like a soiled diaper, full of &^%$, and on your @$$.
OMG
One option is to make her prove that she payed for the items, ask her if she has the receipts and show them to you for the items she says is hers, even offer to pay her for the items if she has any receipts that look legit, if not tell her to go f herself and get over it..
Second option is Just tell her you don't even have the boat and you hide it for a while and why are you still even talking to her...
Hope you have a safe place to keep it for a time until she gets over herself.
Good luck
Can't hide her. As a matter of fact, she sits on a lift in plain view of it's home. (this may sound backwards, but it isn't) I believe luck is on my side.
Why the hell someone would put something in a girlfriend/boyfriends name is beyond me, Good luck, Giver her what she wants and hopefully she will shut up.
LK
Alwhite, You aren't the first person or friend that has said this. It is part of my nature.
I'm not a very giving person in situations like this. I guess it's all how you feel about the girl. What I would do is tell her that you bought the boat and unless there is something when it was sold about the items inside they belong to you. I would check with the local police to make sure where you stand first. Because "usually" someone that hateful that is concerned about little things like that will not let it go. She will be back for other "things" Just my $.02
I am not sure if hateful is the word. Probably more like rejection and menopause,
Agreed. In my state, for unmarried couples, the person who is on the title is the owner. Period, your property. If she called my department and wanted to retrieve property from your boat, we'd escort her over there. Any dispute over ownership of property = property stays where it is. In that case she'd have to file a civil lawsuit to get her property back.
Your mileage (and laws) may vary. Sorry you got into this situation, you've always sounded like an upstanding man to me, Sasto!
Glad to hear from you on this, halfmoa. Appears to be the same laws here.
Sasto...repeat after me..."Go pound sand!" Have you noticed how expensive it now is to file a lawsuit in Florida? It'll cost her more to initiate the suit than the value of her potential recovery. And, unless she's savy enough to draft the complaint properly, she'll have to pay an attorney to get it done.
Rest easy, my friend.
Resting easy now, Richard.
Let her go to the DMV. Since it's in your name she shouldn't have a leg to stand on.....
Have to agree. Everything is peaches and cream until a couple is in splitsville. Then the claws come out. I'm not sure I'd give her anything because I don't think she'll be satisfied. What will she want next? When will it end? If she "really" wants to file a lawsuit over piddly items, let her..... But, it's easy for us to give opinions when we're not going thru what you are, Sasto.........
You have a good point, WIMUSKY. I appreciate you and everyone else giving me advice and hearing me out.
On second thought, I say fuel up the boat and go get some langos to bring to the June get-together...I'm holding your spot:hippie:
I just may, my friend!
I know both parties involved here, sasto, take the advice you are given here, it sounds good to me, check with the local law and see exactly what your rights are and go from there. My thoughts are if she wanted something she should have removed it before giving and titling back to you, check the law and go from there, I think CR is correct "go pound sand" is the correct response. For those that do not know, the place they both live is small enough they will cross paths possibly on a daily basis so hopefully this can be resolved. I am not there so I do not know what all is going on between them, just my thoughts.
You have as good of an idea as I do, Nolan. Since I have confided with you on several occasions about this splitsville, you know alot. You have given me great advice in the past....and are doing it again!
Don't know your laws sasto but a settlement without lawyers is a good and inexpensive one. If it is trivial stuff then let her have it and get her to sign a document with a witness that she now has any and all of the requested belongings and there will be no further comeback.
Just my thoughts though and good luck with it whatever you do my friend.
I really don't want to deal with her, Ken. I don't think this will ever end. Thanks for your response.
If she really wanted that stuff she'd have cleaned it out before you got the boat.
She really doesn't want the stuff, she just wants to stay in contact with you and hoping you'll reconcile. Give her all the stuff back and more and she shouldn't have any reason to contact you anymore.
She can go to the Police but all they will tell her is it is a civil matter, other then that I can't tell you which way it will go Judges can do some funny things...
Good Luck Buddy, happy that you are doing good all things considered...
Thanks guys!
It is nice to share this with others that do, or do not really know me or her. I am proud to have you guys behind my back.
I spoke with a friends attorney yesterday. He pretty much gave me the same advice you guys did. Don't worry about it, I am doing nothing wrong. If anything comes up I will let you know. In the meantime, I am going to work then take MY boat and MY belongings and go fishing with my new girlfriend. And NO.... I didn't put the boat in her name either.
There for awhile I felt as I let Pops and "Baccala" down by not taking care of her and keeping her healthy. She is a little beat up from not being properly tied up at another marina. She had practically no fluid in the tranny....but by golly....she had a new air freshner!
Again.....Thanks!
