Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

[mscher]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

Could probably go either way.

A few years ago, some stores were selling thong underwear for 10 year old girls, with suggestive phrases like "wink wink" or "eye candy", printed on them. There was a good amount of public outrage and the underwear was removed from the stores. The term has stuck in some similar situations.

Could have been a totally innocent comment also.

 

[Bob_VT]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

Mark...... regardless on the intended meaning from the co-worker...... IF YOU are not comfortable with that language (I raised a boy....I have no girls but I have a 2 yo granddaughter) I would tell the co-worker exactly that.

I would rather the co-worker be upset with me personally and know exactly where I stand with family.

 

[javsam]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

Agree with JB.No true meaning.

 

[Cofe]

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Agree with Bob_VT

 

[Cofe]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

Agree with JB.No true meaning.

The true meaning rests with the commenter. What ever he intended it to mean.

 

[Turn-n-Burn]

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my mistake......shouldn't have used true meaning as in "world wide"......but.....just don't say it about my teenage nieces when you're in town.....good lookin' girls will do just fine.....

 

[Jeep Man]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

I would think that your co-worker would have to be "quite the lowlife" if he meant it in a sexual way. I would speak to him privately about the matter. If he did mean it as a sexual comment, deal with him as you see fit and have nothing further to do with him. If he meant it in a complimentary manner, which we all hope was the case, politely let him know that the term could land him in a heap of trouble with someone less understanding.

 

[redeye1962]

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This girl was 12 at the time of this photo. Are you really so certain you can always tell their age?

I have been staring at this girl for hours..............and I still can't believe she is 12. I will keep looking

ok for real. I hear many guys look at girls and still cannot believe how they are developing now a days.....yes these are dads as well and I do not believe they are perverts.
Just keep an eye out I sure am for my daughter.

 

[Cofe]

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This girl was 12 at the time of this photo. Are you really so certain you can always tell their age?

LoL.......if that woman is a 12yr. old, we better quit using growth hormones on produce.......like spam....

 

[DJ]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

The Word: "PIG" comes to mind.

 

[QC]

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Well I agree with almost all of you on this one. Innocent things can be blown out of proportion and evil things can be well disguised . . .

I used to work with a guy, a salesman. An older gentleman, and I mean gentleman in the strictest sense of the word. He was a very upstanding citizen. Raised his family well, followed all of the rules. So clean cut he was fairly naive. He also was an old school relationship type salesman and built lifelong friendships with many of his customers.

He was very enthusiastic about our product and he believed in it. When he would train other sales people for us, after going over the economics and the potential for savings, he would often say "would you like some candy little girl?" And maybe JB is right and I am the one with the warped mind, but it always sounded creepy to me and I guarantee there wasn't a creepy bone in this man's body. I never corrected him, and I always wanted to, but Don was/is so genuine I think most people just understood that he meant it innocently and I thought I'd break his heart if I told him it could have a negative connotation.

 

[jonesg]

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Was showing some vacation pics at the office, and one guy (about 36-38 yrs old) says my daughter is "eye candy". She is only 11, we don't let her wear makeup unless a special event, or dress provocatively. Geeze, she is just a little girl.

Was that remark a back handed compliment or just rude? Just struck me as an odd thing to say to an associate in the office.

Lets cut the crap, eye candy in the vernacular of a little girl, is flat out rude, it only passes for normal between 12 yr old boys.

He was just telling you he failed puberty himself.
Some boys don't mature into men until well into their 40's.
Make allowances .

 

[tuffshot]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

Was showing some vacation pics at the office, and one guy (about 36-38 yrs old) says my daughter is "eye candy". She is only 11, we don't let her wear makeup unless a special event, or dress provocatively. Geeze, she is just a little girl.

Was that remark a back handed compliment or just rude? Just struck me as an odd thing to say to an associate in the office.

Sir, as this guy is a co-worker, you should know his personality better than anyone here. Surely you have had conversations before. His comment may have been made out of awkward ignorance as well. Some people just have to try and be funny. His getures or even an awkward laugh may have told a different story as to his true meaning.

I am also wondering how some of the others who were there responded or reacted to his comment. That alone may give you more of an understanding of his comment.

 

[Triton II]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

Here in Australia the phrase "Eye Candy" can have a multitude of meanings and is used for good looking machinery as well as people. It is non-gender specific, but can (and often does), have a sexual meaning. Having read all the responses to Mark's original post it seems the phrase is more sexually oriented in the US, but there appears to be some doubt as to whether the co-worker meant it in any way other than "what a great looking daughter you have". Personally I'd give the guy the benefit of that doubt (for now) but withdraw from sharing further personal moments with him. Good luck,

TII

 

[Cofe]

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Edit: Said enough. And I do hope you talk to the young man about his verbage.

 

[avenger79]

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couple thoughts come to mind here.
how well does the guy know you? does he feel he knows you well enough to make a comment like that?
I do think it is very different then "going to be a heartbreaker"
If he didn't know you quite well I would think the comment odd to say the least unless that is his normal way of speaking. the intonation of the comment has almost as much to do with it as the words.

next thought though really is for you, did you bring photos out that contained pictures of your young daughter in a bikini, short skirt etc with the thought of let the guys see my cute daughter? wanting to get the oh she's so cute comments but not expecting the "hey she's hot" comment. I only ask because I've seen many guys do it and then be offended when someone makes a comment they didn't want to hear.
just a thought not trying to raise the temp in the room.

 

[Mark42]

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Ok, here is my son and daughter. She is your basic skinny little kid. She is actually still 10 years old, will be 11 in a couple of months (but she always tells me she is 11 when she wants to stay up late, etc).

My son (6 going on 7, in the pic above) likes to take pictures. He took this one of his sister later that day. She has no makeup, lipstick, etc. Just a tan. BTW, He needs to frame pics better! LOL! I could see where this one might make her look maybe 13 or so, but it was the pic above that got the comment.

Hey people, I'm not going to worry about it. Its not worth getting upset over.

 

[Doernuth]

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All I can say is you don't have much time to buy a shotgun before she starts dating!!!

Nice looking kids you got there!!

 

[avenger79]

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well i can't see pics here but I will rescind my prev question. geez she's 10!! that makes the comment even more odd. (or possibly more innocent if it really couldn't be "serious")I agree with your method of handling it though.

 

[Beefer]

Re: Is "Eye Candy" an insult?

I saw this thread yesterday, and initially, I was appalled by the guys comment, and now that I see the picture, I'm even more appalled.
Even if your daughter was 19 years old, I think it's inappropriate to tell a father his daughter is eye candy. What kind of images would that put into Dad's head? I know as a father to a 9 year old girl, I'm already having nightmares of her dating, etc. I don't want to think about the creeps (yes, he's a creep) 3-5 times her age 'checking her out'.

Mark, your kids are; beautiful, adorable, cute, pretty/handsome, and similar. And I do mean that. But, to say either of them are eye candy at this stage of their life (to Dad or anyone else) is (IMO) sick.

For those of you who thought the comment may not have been out of line - what if the guy said it about Mark's son? I feel his comment was no different having been said about his daughter, then I would feel had he said it about his son.

Personally, Mark, I'd keep my kids well guarded from this guy, and PLEASE don't invite him for a family fun day of boating.

Beefer