Lost my Assistant and Friend Today

SS MAYFLOAT

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Re: Lost my Assistant and Friend Today

I cannot imagine how that little girl feels....i have two now in college and have tried to demostrate to them the power of faith.

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.

In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was one only.

This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints, so I said to the Lord,

?You promised me Lord,
that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there has only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me??

The Lord replied, ?The years when you have seen only one set of footprints, my child, is when I carried you.?

It is times like this a person needs faith in something beyond what we can understand...Fatih is what keeps us alive and human

Thanks TG, I needed this as well as the redhead joke :D

Today was a rough day to grind through. The 3rd shift crew helped me do the heavy moving that Roy and I was to do yesterday morning. Like some places where different shifts bumps heads is or was no different at my work. Today they stayed late to help me get the piece of equipment to the shop. I did get the repairs made today even though it was a 2 hour job but took me all day. Picking up the whole load made me realize how much of a help Roy was.

I remember back of posting about how frustrated it was being the only tech taking care of the needs of 9 stores for my first 10 years of posting. It sure was great having the extra help (especially with it being Roy) for the last 3. My boss did say today that they do plan to get a replacement as they realized how much of an asset it was having that extra person. Especially now with new equipment that has added menu items. This was somewhat a relief, but still I grieve the loss of Roy.

Last evening, my wife got a call from our son-in-law. Our daughter was admitted to the hospital to the physic ward. OMG the drama with that girl. All her problems are brought on by herself. Thank God my SIL has stuck it out with her. Only thing that is keeping my grandsons sane.

Too many things in Roys death does not show it was a willing suicide. Suicide note had 3 different hand writtings, credits cards missing from his wallet, and his house showed signs of a struggle. Hopefully the autopsy will answer some questions. The chain of events that happened does not conform to the character that of Roy. This is odd and very strange. Sure pray and hope the investigation finds the answers to why.

Thanks for the support. I will let Sara know she has many friends supporting her than she knows. I wish to thank the iboats family here for the strong support. Thank you my shipmates and friends..........SS
 

Limited-Time

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Sorry for your loss SS. These things never make sense or resolve anything. May all those touched by his tragic loss find the strength and faith to endure.
 

RogersJetboat454

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My condolences SS. Prayers for you, your co-worker, and co-workers fam.:(

If this is determined to be a homicide, hopefully they can track the credit cards and nail the lower than Whale ****, ******** that did this!!!:mad:
 
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"Too many things in Roys death does not show it was a willing suicide. Suicide note had 3 different hand writtings, credits cards missing from his wallet, and his house showed signs of a struggle."

Holy moley! Sounds like a mystery novel or one of those stories you see on TV.

Sorry for your loss...hang in there.
 

Cap’n Ray

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I don't remember where I first saw this, but I love it, it's very comforting;

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Everything remains as it was.
The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.



My heart goes out to all of his friends and family in this difficult time.
 

waterinthefuel

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Wow. I am at a loss for words, SS. Things like this always hit us out of left field. Hopefully, it wasn't over money or something stupid like that. Can you give his ex wife and daughter a kind word from us here on Iboats? Thanks.
 

MTboatguy

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Suicides and murder/suicides are such a strange and foreign thing to most of us, I remember when my sister was murdered by her husband, my brother in law( who then killed himself) and the questions that were asked of me, by both the news and the authorities. I also had a good friend of mine who lost his 18 year old son to suicide and with both events, I beat the holy crap out of myself.

My advice, let the investigation proceed, if there is something to find, they will find it. In the meantime take the time to heal, to grieve and to hurt, it is an important part of the process. I wish I was saying this from speculation, unfortunately, I am telling you this based on experience..

I have not stopped praying, and will continue to pray for You and the family.'

Dave
 

rivermouse

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I had a similar thing happen when the co worker I spent the day with on a Friday shot his wife and then himself the following sunday .It is a shock for you and will take some time for you to sorta get it off of your mind. Sorry to hear this and I feel for sure the cops will resolve it one way or another.Once I had to give a reprimand to a teacher and learned later he shot his young kid and then himself. The child lived. I wished I had not been hard on him but refused to fell guilty.
 

Autotech

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Sorry for your loss, Prayers sent for you and friends family.
 

DECK SWABBER 58

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May God bless everyone involved with peace and strength.
 
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