let me start by saying...user error. I lowered the motor using the single motor mount bolt that is located under the crankshaft pulley. I loosened it and the rear of the motor dropped and I was able to get the alignment bar in the coupler about an inch and get greased spline marks on the bar (I was wrong about the bar going in last time, I just thought it was). When I tried to loosen the bolt a little more, the washer under the bolt was loose but the motor would not rise up anymore. Does this mean the motor mount is bad? I was thinking the rubber had lost its elasticity and that's why it would not lift the motor anymore. The outdrive goes on very smoothly up until the last 1/2 inch. The 2x4 trick that someone mentioned worked like a charm, I never would have thought of that.