I don’t always express what I am thinking very clearly. What he was using for a ground on his test light is important. He isn’t going to show power if he isn’t grounded with it. Checking through the pins in the connector only grounds if the ECM allows it. He isn’t likely to show power unless he is grounding to bare metal on the block. Best would be the battery ground on the block or to the battery itself.
I mostly consider test lights to be useless for real troubleshooting. It’s hard enough to get a multimeter to read sometimes but the leads are long enough to reach a known good ground and/or do continuity checks to find a good ground. Sometimes just getting good contact through a connector is problematic. Test lights compound that issue. In short, I question whether or not he has power to the connector.
I also mentioned that he needs to backtrack that power lead and check power at every connection going back to the key to see where power is lost. He could also start at the key to see if power is coming out everywhere it should.