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Fishbusters

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The e-mails and fantasy are only a small part of what should concern you. What really worries me is when you said "poss. some lunches". If there was no real-time in person meeting between the two I think you should and can work to salvage things because if all that was there is fantasy then perhaps you can work to fill in what she needs to fantasize about. If there were a face to face meeting then it has gone beyond the strictly fantasy stage and who knows what else has happened. This is the part that concerns me and I would have to work towards finding out. As to the car (the other part that has me worried) if it is a good car especially one the wife likes I would worry a lot. One overlooked reason for her selling him her car is to take it off the books so to speak if things end up in divorce. If you sell it to the "boyfriend" then she gets to keep it free and clear and not as a part of a settlement. Watch your back here if there are further offloading of things it might be a signal. I have seen the car sale as well as other things that were sold to "friends" right before one party left and filed for divorce. It is a way of making sure you get to keep what you want without it counting as part of the settlement.
 

Kenneth Brown

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It seems like everyone "knew" of someone that has been through this before. I will go ahead and admit I have been down this road. I ran into an old flame just as my wife and me were having the most troubles. I broke down and had an affair. We communicated by email and phone whenever we couldn't meet in person. I never got caught, but I ended up fessing up to my actions. My mistress'es husband however did find the emails and was a little upset to say the least. He just flatout called me out, daring me to show up and mmet him. The last night we were together and I was explaining to her that we couldn't do this anymore, it was all or nothing from here on out, she gets a call from her mother telling her her husband is in on us. I met the fella, sized him up, and he did the same with me. Me and him had a long talk about what was lacking, and why I was in the picture. It made me realize I was doing the same things to my wife that he did to his. From that point on I changed. They ended up divorcing about a year later. Me and my wife are still together (THANK GOD, at least most of the time)and I believe that it had to do with coming clean. You can't just wash a little off, it has to be completely out in the open. Best of luck to you.
 

ezbtr

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You guys are amazing. Thank you. I actually decided (after only reading 3 posts at that point in time)to do what I thought was best, Fri pm we ended up both having a talk which ended up into almost 5 hours til 2 a.m. %100 percent honest. Got it ALL out. Thank God. Went great, all as I thought, never physical. Car back next a.m. by guys wife, they had short words, he wasnt there, he is definitely NOT a man by any means, no more contact, and I'm nuts about my wife :) . Talked on and off all wknd.(awesome) We love each other lots, I REALLY ****ED UP to let it get this far and stopped communicating/talking to my wife and had MY priorities WRONG, I "checked out" awhile ago, stopped givin a damn, then she did too. never again. I travel lots, but it's gonna be lots less. She truly is an awesome woman and gets a hell of alot done that I dont see. We;ve been talking great, but counseling for sure, and I cant wait to see her when I get home today. Remembered why I married her, and what a good marriage we had, gonna make it even better.We've got real busy lives, but were BOTH making time for each other now. Thanks again so much guys, EZ.<br />P.S. When friends or family of yours are tellin ya you're ****in up, they can't all be wrong. :)
 

ezbtr

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P.S. Shredded ALL papers first thing this a.m., ez
 

Barely_Legal

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I'm happy to hear you were able to discuss things in a non-hostile manner. It sounds like you are mature enough to admit that you play a huge part in this. Not every man would be willing to admit that. My hat is off to you for handling things the way you did and for giving her another chance. <br /><br />Most of the time, the reason couples stray is to seek attention from the opposite sex. The physical contact is not as important as the knoweldge that you are sexy and wanted sometimes.<br /><br />Good luck to both of you, it sounds like you have a great foundation for a lifetime of happiness together. Keep those lines of communication open.
 

Jack Shellac

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Good for both of you. Hope it works out and you're both very happy.
 

Scoop

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Ezbtr, I am very happy that thing went so well. You still have a lot of work in front of you, but this sounds like an awesome step. congratulations.
 

Ross J

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You are a very brave man ezbtr, and I take my hat off to you.<br />I wish you all the support and love in the world.<br />Ross
 

miloman

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buddy Im glad for you its nice to hear that someone has worked out thier differences in a positive way
 

SpinnerBait_Nut

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Good for you ez.<br /><br />As was stated before, you still have a lot of work ahead of you.<br /><br />The trust thing will be the hardest, although you might think it's great right now, it will be in the back of your mind for awhile, but keep a positive attitude and it will all work out. :cool:
 

sho500

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:D Hi all, Here's a good question for all of you .. Does anyone know anything about the motor that is in my 1991 Ford sho??? It has a Yamaha 3.0 v-6 motor in it
 

ebbtide176

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sho500, you should post that question again, as a new topic. its at the top and bottom of each page. ;) <br /><br />sorry, i don't have experience with that motor, though
 
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