Jerk neighbors - what to do?

[coolguy147]

Re: Jerk neighbors - what to do?

whats a AA meeting?

 

[Bart Sr.]

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Alcoholics Anonymous

 

[wajajaja02]

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It would appear that they are invading your right to privacy by deliberately illuminating your entire home. depraving you of enjoyment. you would be entitle to legal remedy and monetary damage.
an order to cease and desist with show cause should be easily obtained in municipal court.

 

[WTR4FUN]

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I re-read the original post and came to the conclusion that since you already politely tried to deal with the neighbor behind you, befriending him won't work. The lady to the left has already proven to be confontational by making demands on the propertly line that you could only solve through a official survey. Dont be afraid to stand up for yourself. Bear down and show them that you have more determination than they do, and you will win. Now you got lots of great advise, go implement it.

 

[ShaneCarroll]

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Well, if it makes you feel any better, I just had another issue with my neighbor today. This dude is unemployed (by choice, no motivation to find a job) and sits home all day. I am very seldom home in the daylight hours due to work, and sometimes don't come home until late at night. Well, today I come home to find that this guy took black spraypaint and painted a line on the sidewalk, with a "My Side, Your Side" arrow. This was completely unprovoked, as I never even see the guy, and my fiancee doesn't even let our kids play on his side of the yard. Last Sunday, he was yelling because my boat, which was on MY property, was in the way and he couldn't mow the yard. He didn't politely ask, or I would have been more than willing to move it. His way of "politely" asking was, "Hey Shane, you need to move that dam boat, I'd like to get my yard mowed sometime this year." My boat is only there for maybe five hours a week, and that is just to get it ready to go, and wash it afterwards and then it goes right back to my parent's two acres.

I just don't understand why neighbors must be so complicated. I get along with everyone, and very seldom complain, unless some physical harm comes to my property or my family. My neighbor is a psycho, he's told me before that ghosts tell him about other people's personalities. WTF??

 

[skargo]

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Shane,
you're neighbor is mentally disturbed. Give that guy a wide berth and hope he gets some medical attention or jail time.

 

[SuzukiChopper]

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Shane,
you're neighbor is mentally disturbed. Give that guy a wide berth and hope he gets some medical attention or jail time.

I'd give him more then a wide berth. I'd buy him a white hug me jacket for his birthday.

 

[Landscaping Wiz 808]

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I am so glad I can't see any of my neighbors, even though I only have 4 acres, it's nice living in the woods.

That's a GOOD amount of land around these parts. Mapquest couldn't find Hazzard County though, I was going to hop in my Challenger and take a look around.

BOB

 

[stormy weathers]

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Let me just say that I had a Friend with this same problem. While my friends next door pain in the a__ were away on a weekend retreat. My friend climb their roof and put dry cement in their main plumb vent. After a week of jack hammering and fixing up their house they moved the following month.

 

[scipper77]

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Just wanted to say that I have one of those lights and it is too bright. It lights up my whole yard (There are woods behind me not houses). you have to either point the thing at the ground, or up like your neighbors do because the element is so bright that it will blind you.

I suggest that you find an alternative really bright light that doesn't have a visible blinding element and buy it for them as a gift to you both. I bet it's pointed so high so that they can light up there whole yard without blinding themselves. Maybe get them a light that isn't so industrial looking. They might like the style of the light enough to want to change it.

 

[skargo]

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That's a GOOD amount of land around these parts. Mapquest couldn't find Hazzard County though, I was going to hop in my Challenger and take a look around.

BOB

It's Harford County's nickname.

 

[bandit86]

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2 million candle spotlight, just randomly aim it in his windows

 

[v1_0]

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Well, today I come home to find that this guy took black spraypaint and painted a line on the sidewalk, with a "My Side, Your Side" arrow.

Call the police. This is either vandalism, or graffiti. (I'm assuming you don't actually own the sidewalk in front of your houses).

What you are going to do is start giving this guy enough rope to hang himself. He may confront you about the calling of the cops - good, make sure you video it.

Whenever you do any yard work, go outside, etc - again, make sure that you are either videotaping the area, or have someone ready on the video so that when he comes out they can start rolling.

The point is that unless you have all these incidents documented - by video (best) or by having witnesses, they "didn't happen".

Once you have enough tape, get a good lawyer and go to court. You can then show harrassment, (including the light).

 

[FBPirate95]

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So where and when are we building the iboats compound we can all move to? I envision a place with a ton of boat storage, lake, creek, river and ocean access. Massive garage with central heat and air, and every tool you would need. Play ground for the kids & after hours club house for the adults.

 

[v1_0]

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I get along with everyone, and very seldom complain, unless some physical harm comes to my property or my family.

I hate to say it, but this is probably why your neighbors are acting like they do... They seem to feel like they can get away with it - at worst case, they loose nothing in the attempt.

Would I be accurate in saying that, if you reflect a bit, there were a number of smaller incidents - perhaps very 'minor' to you - that occured over the years where they were doing similar things, but on a smaller scale?

My neighbor is a psycho, he's told me before that ghosts tell him about other people's personalities. WTF??

Ah... I'm going to skip the theological track that this could take. It would be an interesting discussion, but most certainly result in censor of this thread.

I'm really just interested in why he happened to mention this. Is it something that he told you to maybe make you uncomfortable, put you off balance?

As a disclaimer, I'm no psychologist, etc - don't claim any expertise on personality disorders. However, it seems to me that the less you do about it - the more the neighbors will do to you. Forget the reasons why, I guess.

I will say that it seems like it's all about control. They are causing you to expend effort in response to their actions. Your lady neighbor said something - you took the time to contact a surveyor, and spent money. Your neighbor yelled at you for having your boat in your yard - did you move it?

It would have been clever to ignore the lady's demands about the property line - even to the point of letting her build something on it. THEN get the survey and have her remove it at her expense. Now it has cost her more than it has cost you.

The same with the light - either get them written up for light tresspass, or build a cheap (1/4 plywood painted silver) extension to your fence. If you have a home owner's association that won't allow such a thing - then great! Make that HOA work for you. Lobby, negotiate, etc. - get a ruling about what sort of lights you can have, etc. You may have to go a circular route - not banning them, but requiring them to be a certain type (just as they do with mailboxes). The plywood reflector is a passive measure, fully on your yard, and well within your rights - but it takes control back to your side.

Once they understand that controlling you is more effort than reward, then they will probably move on to some other hobby.

 

[SuzukiChopper]

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Well written post v1_0 but why quote ShaneCarroll and the issue he had with his crazy neighbour but respond with issues that are affecting lowkee (the OP)? Lowkee's situation as I read it has nothing to do with control, just people being inconsiderate.

 

[avenger79]

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reading through this I now appreciate my long commute to work even more. I am so glad I live in the country. No weirdo neighbors to worry about.

For the light, I would probably shoot it with a silent or nearly silent air rifle. It's not legal but who's gonna know? What's the guy going to do call the cops and say "I think it was him because I aimed it at his yard and he didn't like it"?

that or get a light of your own and "fire" back.

 

[scipper77]

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I hate to say it, but this is probably why your neighbors are acting like they do... They seem to feel like they can get away with it - at worst case, they loose nothing in the attempt.

Would I be accurate in saying that, if you reflect a bit, there were a number of smaller incidents - perhaps very 'minor' to you - that occured over the years where they were doing similar things, but on a smaller scale?



Ah... I'm going to skip the theological track that this could take. It would be an interesting discussion, but most certainly result in censor of this thread.

I'm really just interested in why he happened to mention this. Is it something that he told you to maybe make you uncomfortable, put you off balance?

As a disclaimer, I'm no psychologist, etc - don't claim any expertise on personality disorders. However, it seems to me that the less you do about it - the more the neighbors will do to you. Forget the reasons why, I guess.

I will say that it seems like it's all about control. They are causing you to expend effort in response to their actions. Your lady neighbor said something - you took the time to contact a surveyor, and spent money. Your neighbor yelled at you for having your boat in your yard - did you move it?

It would have been clever to ignore the lady's demands about the property line - even to the point of letting her build something on it. THEN get the survey and have her remove it at her expense. Now it has cost her more than it has cost you.

The same with the light - either get them written up for light tresspass, or build a cheap (1/4 plywood painted silver) extension to your fence. If you have a home owner's association that won't allow such a thing - then great! Make that HOA work for you. Lobby, negotiate, etc. - get a ruling about what sort of lights you can have, etc. You may have to go a circular route - not banning them, but requiring them to be a certain type (just as they do with mailboxes). The plywood reflector is a passive measure, fully on your yard, and well within your rights - but it takes control back to your side.

Once they understand that controlling you is more effort than reward, then they will probably move on to some other hobby.

This advice works with normal reasonable people. Of course normal considerate people wouldn't point there light at you knowing it makes you miserable.

We may be dealing with sociopaths here. seriously!! Some people live for these types of personal battles, They just take pleasure in it with no regards to how there behavior will affect the other person. You do not want to play games with someone like that, they will not respond reasonably or predictably. I'd even go so far as to say that it's only a light right know. The childish antics could turn this into a situation where you wish it was only the light. For example your house, car, etc could get mysteriously vandalized with no way of proving it was them.

I would do what was within my rights that is not retaliatory and hope the situation does not escalate!

 

[v1_0]

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Well written post v1_0 but why quote ShaneCarroll and the issue he had with his crazy neighbour but respond with issues that are affecting lowkee (the OP)?

Uh, my dog told me to?

Actually, I read through it and got mixed up as to who has what jerk neighbors.

 

[gtwhtgt]

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Company make a device that looks like a small bird house that emits a HIGH Pitched noise when a dog barks, also clapping, etc. Normal humans can't hear it but it scares the hell out of the dogs. Found it on E Bay for about 50, well worth it. Pellet gun usually takes care of mis-aligned lights.