I've been going out with this girl for just a week, known her for two. I was "set up" with her threw a friend, she's my friends girlfriends best friend.<br /><br />I really like her and care about her a lot, I told you guys a little about her before. Everything between us had been going great, until yesterday. The four of us had plans to go to the mall, she knows I HATE the mall, but I told her I'd go any way. She tried to almost talk me out of going, I told her I wanted to.<br />So we spend a few hours together, and she just isn't herself. I can tell, and I thought it might have been something I said. She had to work at 5, so I was dropping her off at her work. I asked her if she wanted me to come see her at work later that night, and she was like "if you want to", and went into work without even really saying goodbye, and it was the first time I've been anywhere with her since asking her out without kissing her. At this point I was worried.<br /><br />I come back to her work later last night, it was like 9, they close at 10. I asked her if we could talk, and she played it off like, "not really" she was busy. Then she disappeared out back, leaving me standing in Dunk'en Donuts like a jerk off, for at least 20 minuets, I came VERY close to just walking out. I ended up asking someone else to have her come see me. She comes out, it looks like she's been crying, won't tell me what's wrong but agrees to call me when she gets out of work.<br /><br />To make a long story short, she calls and tells me she's not ready to be in a relationship right now because she isn't over her last boyfriend. She is also seems to think I should have asked about her last relationship, which I never did. I think if her and I had talked about her last boyfriend it might have been ok. On the phone last night she told me a bit about him. The scumbag was 21 years old, she's 16. It was a very serious relationship (all three mounts of it) and they "did stuff". He broke up with her because he said it wasn't fair to her because he didn't have time for her, but told her he still loved her. I knew she had only broken up with her last boyfriend recently, but I didn't realize it was only ONE WEEK before she met me. So right now, her and I are broken up, because she says she needs more time, and should be single for a while. She was very worried about me and our other two friends hating her, I told her over and over how I understand, and really care about her. I told her I want to by part of her life, even if its just as a friend for now. I also told her to call me any time she wants or needs anything. During all this she is still insisting how I've done nothing wrong and its all her, and its not fair to me. I left her a message this afternoon, and hope to either get her on the phone to see her in person some point today.<br /><br />Now my question is,<br /> I really care about this girl, and if Ill be her "friend" for a while, but I still want to be more then friend eventually. How long do you guys think something like this should take?<br /><br />And on a site note, WTF is with a 21y/o MAN going out with 16y/o GIRL? 
I didn't want to get into it with her, but I think that is total bullcrap and if I had the chance I'd ring the scumbags neck. He went out with her for three of four months, had sex with her (her first time) had her convinced that they loved each other, and dumped her because he didnt have time for her, but tells her hell always love her, and never calls her again.<br />Don't we have laws against these things? I know it wont accomplish anything, but Id like to pay this guy a visit, and I could easily find him, and Im thinking about it.<br /><br />Thanks for lisening, its been a very frusterating day. I really want to do the right thing with this girl and not lose her. Ive broken up with girls before and have never felt this empty afterwards. I couldnt sleep all night, I was out getting breakfast alone all depressed a 5am. I cant explane it but I really like her and care about her a lot.
I didn't want to get into it with her, but I think that is total bullcrap and if I had the chance I'd ring the scumbags neck. He went out with her for three of four months, had sex with her (her first time) had her convinced that they loved each other, and dumped her because he didnt have time for her, but tells her hell always love her, and never calls her again.<br />Don't we have laws against these things? I know it wont accomplish anything, but Id like to pay this guy a visit, and I could easily find him, and Im thinking about it.<br /><br />Thanks for lisening, its been a very frusterating day. I really want to do the right thing with this girl and not lose her. Ive broken up with girls before and have never felt this empty afterwards. I couldnt sleep all night, I was out getting breakfast alone all depressed a 5am. I cant explane it but I really like her and care about her a lot.
